ఆకలి వేస్తోంది అత్తగారా అంటే, రోకలి మింగవే కోడలా అన్నదట.

akali vestondi attagara ante, rokali mingave kodala annadata.

Translation

When the daughter-in-law said she was hungry, her mother- in-law told her to swallow the pestle.

Meaning

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone asks for a basic necessity or a small favor and receives a cruel, impossible, or mocking response instead of help. It highlights the lack of empathy or the hostile relationship between two people, often used to critique someone who gives heartless advice.

Notes

Rōkali is a wooden pestle, five or six feet long, used for pounding rice.

Related Phrases

When she said " I salute you, O blind father-in-law!" he re- plied " Is this the commencement of strife ? O adulterous daughter-in-law!"

This proverb describes a situation where someone with a guilty conscience or an inferiority complex misinterprets a simple, respectful gesture or a factual observation as an insult. The father-in-law is sensitive about his blindness, so even a respectful greeting that acknowledges his state is taken as an offensive provocation.

Let him that has a glass skull not take to stone throwing. ( Italian. )*

When the daughter-in-law said the crops have yielded seeds, the mother-in-law asked her to take a handful back.

This proverb is used to describe people who are extremely stingy or greedy. It depicts a situation where, instead of being happy about a harvest, a person immediately thinks of how to hoard or save even a tiny amount more, showing an obsessive level of frugality or selfishness.

When a woman said "O conceited brother-in-law," he answered "Well, one eyed sister-in-law."

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone who is criticized for their flaws or arrogance immediately retaliates by pointing out a bigger or equally hurtful flaw in the critic. It highlights a cycle of mutual insults or a situation where a person with faults tries to silence another person's valid observation with rudeness.

When the daughter-in-law said 'A flood of porridge has arrived, mother-in-law!', the mother-in-law replied 'The measuring basket is still in my hand, daughter-in-law.'

This proverb highlights excessive control, stinginess, or a refusal to let go of authority even when there is an abundance of resources. It describes a situation where a person in power insists on rationing or strictly controlling something even when it is available in plenty, or simply asserts their dominance for the sake of it.

He said 'brother' to the axe blow

This expression describes a situation where someone suddenly becomes humble, respectful, or starts calling an enemy 'brother' only when faced with an immediate, life-threatening danger or severe punishment. It is used to mock people who only show manners or submission when they are under duress.

When a simpleton was told to swallow without chewing, she said the boiled fish might bite.

This proverb is used to describe people who act overly innocent or fake naivety to avoid work or to make excuses. It mocks someone who pretends to be so simple-minded that they fear impossible things (like a cooked fish biting) just to be difficult or to gain sympathy.

"A river of porridge has come, mother-in-law!" she cried. "But I have the measure, daughter-in-law," replied the dame.

This proverb highlights a power struggle or an obsession with control within a household. It describes a situation where, despite an abundance of resources (a river of food), the person in authority (the mother-in-law) insists on strictly rationing it to maintain their dominance and ensure the other person remains dependent or restricted.

"See! The signs of rain appear!" cried the daughter-in-law "What of that?" said the mother-in-law "I have the measure." (See, Nos. 19, 155.)

This proverb describes a situation where someone tries to hide their lack of progress or authority by asserting that they still hold the means of control. It is used to point out someone who is being evasive, lazy, or trying to maintain power without actually completing the task at hand.

When the daughter-in-law said the clouds had gathered, the mother-in-law told her to soak rice for crepes.

This proverb describes a situation where someone misinterprets a sign of trouble or a warning as a reason for celebration or greed. When the daughter-in-law warns of dark clouds (incoming rain/storm), the mother-in-law, thinking only of tasty food, asks to prepare for snacks. It is used to mock people who lack foresight or who are disconnected from reality due to their desires.

When the daughter-in-law said the boundary logs have been laid, the mother-in-law told her to move them back by a handful.

This proverb is used to describe a person (usually someone in authority) who gives unnecessary or contradictory advice just to show their dominance, even when the work done is perfectly fine. It highlights the tendency of some people to find faults or demand changes simply to exercise their power.