అంబటి ఏరు వచ్చినది అత్తగారూ అంటే, కొలబుర్ర నాచేతిలో ఉన్నది కోడలా అన్నదట

ambati eru vachchinadi attagaru ante, kolaburra nachetilo unnadi kodala annadata

Translation

"A river of porridge has come, mother-in-law!" she cried. "But I have the measure, daughter-in-law," replied the dame.

Meaning

This proverb highlights a power struggle or an obsession with control within a household. It describes a situation where, despite an abundance of resources (a river of food), the person in authority (the mother-in-law) insists on strictly rationing it to maintain their dominance and ensure the other person remains dependent or restricted.

Related Phrases

When told 'The Kadiyala family has arrived', he asked 'Do they want bracelets?'

This proverb is used to mock people who take things too literally or misunderstand context by focusing only on the phonetics of a word. 'Kadiyala' is a common Telugu surname, but the listener confuses it with the jewelry 'Kadiyalu' (bracelets), showing a lack of common sense or social awareness.

When one said "Kādu, Kādu" the other said "Nādi, Nādi."

This proverb describes a situation where someone persistently tries to claim ownership or credit for something even after being explicitly told it doesn't belong to them or is incorrect. It is used to mock people who are shamelessly stubborn or opportunistic despite being rejected.

Kādu in Telugu means " it is not," "no;" in Tamil it signifies " the ear." A Telugu man on one occasion accidentally stuck the barb of his spear into a Tamilian's ear, on which the latter cried out "Kādu! Kādu!" ( My ear! my ear! ) The Telugu man thinking he meant to say " Not yours, not yours" pulled at the spear all the harder, saying "Nādi! Nādi!" (It's mine! it's mine!). Said to a man who is obstinate in argument.

When the daughter-in-law said 'A flood of porridge has arrived, mother-in-law!', the mother-in-law replied 'The measuring basket is still in my hand, daughter-in-law.'

This proverb highlights excessive control, stinginess, or a refusal to let go of authority even when there is an abundance of resources. It describes a situation where a person in power insists on rationing or strictly controlling something even when it is available in plenty, or simply asserts their dominance for the sake of it.

The mother-in-law put her finger in every dish prepared [ by the daughter-in-law ]. No work and all the credit. One man knocks in the nail, and another hangs his hat on it. (German.)

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone unnecessarily interferes or meddles in a task that has already been completed perfectly or settled. It highlights unwelcome interference that often ruins the final outcome or creates unnecessary complications.

When the daughter-in-law said she was hungry, her mother- in-law told her to swallow the pestle.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone asks for a basic necessity or a small favor and receives a cruel, impossible, or mocking response instead of help. It highlights the lack of empathy or the hostile relationship between two people, often used to critique someone who gives heartless advice.

Rōkali is a wooden pestle, five or six feet long, used for pounding rice.

When a daughter-in-law says that she is about to bring forth a son, is there any mother-in-law who says "Don't"? i. e. wish the child to be a daughter. Will any one refuse to receive a benefit?

This proverb describes a situation where someone offers to do something that is universally desired or beneficial to everyone involved. It implies that no one would refuse a proposal that results in a positive outcome for the whole group or family. It is often used when someone makes a suggestion that is too good to turn down.

When the daughter-in-law said, 'Mother-in-law, a barrier has been placed in the sky,' the mother-in-law replied, 'I have the ladle in my hand, dear.'

This proverb is used to describe a competitive relationship or a 'one-upmanship' attitude, particularly between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It highlights a situation where one person makes an absurd or exaggerated claim, and the other responds with an equally nonsensical or defiant retort just to show they are not outdone or to maintain authority, regardless of logic.

Six months after the death of the mother-in-law, tears came into the eyes of the daughter-in-law.

This proverb describes a situation where a person shows a delayed, insincere, or hypocritical emotional reaction. It is used to mock someone who pretends to care about a loss or an event long after it happened, or when their reaction is clearly performative rather than genuine.

"See! The signs of rain appear!" cried the daughter-in-law "What of that?" said the mother-in-law "I have the measure." (See, Nos. 19, 155.)

This proverb describes a situation where someone tries to hide their lack of progress or authority by asserting that they still hold the means of control. It is used to point out someone who is being evasive, lazy, or trying to maintain power without actually completing the task at hand.

When the daughter-in-law said the clouds had gathered, the mother-in-law told her to soak rice for crepes.

This proverb describes a situation where someone misinterprets a sign of trouble or a warning as a reason for celebration or greed. When the daughter-in-law warns of dark clouds (incoming rain/storm), the mother-in-law, thinking only of tasty food, asks to prepare for snacks. It is used to mock people who lack foresight or who are disconnected from reality due to their desires.