ఆస్తికొక కొడుకు ఆశకొక కూతురు

astikoka koduku ashakoka kuturu

Translation

One son for the property and one daughter for the desire

Meaning

This is a traditional saying describing a small, ideal family structure. It suggests that a son is needed to inherit and look after the family assets (property), while a daughter is desired to fulfill the emotional longing and affection within the family.

Related Phrases

Having only one son is like having only one eye.

This proverb highlights the vulnerability of relying on a single source of support. Just as losing one's only eye results in total blindness, depending solely on one child or a single plan is risky because if that one fails, there is no backup or alternative support system.

A different mind for every birth, a different taste for every tongue.

This proverb highlights the diversity of human nature and preferences. It means that just as every individual has their own unique way of thinking, every person also has their own specific tastes and likes. It is used to explain why people have different opinions, choices, or temperaments.

Lime in one eye and butter in the other eye

This expression is used to describe showing partiality or unfair discrimination. It refers to a situation where two people or groups are treated differently—one with harshness (lime/sunnam, which burns) and the other with kindness (butter/venna, which soothes).

A son for the property, and a daughter for the love.

This traditional expression reflects a cultural sentiment that a son is needed to inherit and manage the family's assets or lineage, while a daughter is essential for providing emotional warmth, care, and affection within the family. It highlights the perceived complementary roles of children in a household.

One eye is not an eye, one son is not a son.

This proverb highlights the vulnerability and risk associated with having only one of something essential. Just as losing one's only eye results in total blindness, depending on an only child (traditionally for lineage or support) is considered risky because if something happens to them, there is no backup. It is used to describe situations where a single point of failure exists.

A widow's son is a son, a king's son is a son. A king's son and a widow's son are both greatly indulged.

This proverb highlights that fate or luck favors two extremes: either those who have nothing to lose and must work extremely hard (the widow's son) or those who are born with immense privilege (the king's son). It is used to describe how people at the very bottom of the social ladder and the very top often end up being the most successful or influential, albeit for different reasons.

One eye is no eye, one son is no son.

This proverb suggests that relying on a single resource or individual is risky. Just as losing one's only eye leads to total blindness, depending on an only child (or a single point of failure) leaves one vulnerable. It is used to emphasize the importance of backups, security, or having multiple supports in life.

They are sons only while being birthed and raised; are they still sons once the daughters-in-law arrive?

This proverb reflects a cynical or traditional social observation about how sons often change their priorities or distance themselves from their parents after getting married. It is used to express the disappointment of parents who feel neglected by their sons due to the influence of their wives (daughters-in-law).

One son is not a son, and one tree is not a grove.

This proverb emphasizes that relying on a single resource or individual is risky. Just as a single tree cannot provide the shade or abundance of an entire forest/grove, having only one child (in a traditional context) or one plan was seen as precarious because if that one fails, there is no backup or support system.

A different taste for every tongue, a different thought for every skull.

This proverb highlights the diversity of human nature. Just as every person has their own unique sense of taste, every individual has their own way of thinking, opinions, and intelligence. It is used to explain why people behave differently or have conflicting perspectives.