ఎక్కుమంటే ఎద్దుకు కోపం, దిగుమంటే కుంటివానికి కోపం

ekkumante edduku kopam, digumante kuntivaniki kopam

Translation

If you say "Mount," the bullock is angry; if you say "Get off" the lame man is angry.

Meaning

This proverb describes a 'no-win' or 'catch-22' situation where any decision made will upset someone involved. It is used when a person is caught between two parties with conflicting interests, where satisfying one inevitably displeases the other.

Notes

It is hard to please every one. (Dutch.)*

Related Phrases

If told to let go, the snake gets angry; if told to catch, the frog gets angry.

This proverb describes a dilemma or a 'catch-22' situation where any decision made will result in someone being offended or a negative outcome. It is used when a person is stuck between two conflicting parties or choices where satisfying one inevitably displeases the other.

When a poor man is angry, he only bursts his own lips. Anger without power is folly. (German.) Anger makes a rich man hated, and a poor man scorned.

This proverb suggests that when a person with no power or resources gets angry, it only hurts them further rather than affecting others. It is used to describe a situation where expressing frustration is futile because the person lacks the influence to bring about change, often resulting in self-inflicted stress or negative consequences for themselves.

If asked to bite, the frog would be angry; if asked to let go, the snake would be angry.

This refers to a situation when there are two disputing parties and advising either of them to compromise or withdraw from the dispute will be rejected by both. On those occasions, it is wise to keep quiet.

An obstinate person's anger sits on their nose

This expression is used to describe someone who is extremely short-tempered or quick to get angry over trivial matters. 'Anger on the nose' signifies that the person's temper is always ready to flare up instantly without any restraint or patience.

The sight of a beggar rouses a poor man's anger.

This expression describes the envy or resentment felt between people in similar unfortunate circumstances. It is often used when someone who is struggling themselves looks down upon or feels competitive towards another person who is also in need, rather than showing empathy.

Said impertinently by a beggar when he gets nothing.

A sick person has more anger.

This expression is used to describe how people who are suffering or in a weak state tend to be irritable, impatient, or easily annoyed. It serves as a reminder to be patient and empathetic with those who are unwell, as their physical discomfort often manifests as bad temper.

The rough man's anger is on his nose. Said of a very bad tempered man.

This expression is used to describe someone who gets angry very easily and quickly (short-tempered). The 'tip of the nose' symbolizes how close the anger is to surfacing at any moment, especially in individuals who are impulsive or stubborn.

If you abuse—anger; if you beat—pain.

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely sensitive or lacks resilience. It highlights that they react negatively to even the smallest forms of criticism or physical hardship. It can also be used to point out obvious cause-and-effect reactions in human emotions and physical sensations.

Seeing its own kind makes a dog angry, but a horse happy.

This proverb is used to contrast different attitudes toward one's own community or peers. It suggests that while some people are jealous or hostile toward their own kind (like a dog barking at another dog), others feel joy and a sense of belonging when they see their peers (like a horse neighing happily at another horse). It is a commentary on human nature regarding professional or social rivalry versus solidarity.

If you say "let it go" the snake will be angry, if you say "hold it" the frog will be angry. A difficulty in pleasing both parties in the settlement of a dispute. It is hard to please a' parties. (Scotch.)

This proverb describes a difficult dilemma or a 'no-win' situation where any decision made will inevitably offend or hurt one of the parties involved. It is used when a person is caught between two conflicting interests and is unable to please everyone.