పెట్టితే తింటారుగాని, తిట్టితే పడేవారు లేరు.

pettite tintarugani, tittite padevaru leru.

Translation

If you feed, [people] will eat; but if you abuse none will bear it.

Meaning

This proverb highlights human nature regarding respect and dignity. It means that while people are happy to accept favors or gifts, they will not tolerate being insulted or treated poorly. It is used to advise someone that providing material help does not give them the right to verbal abuse.

Related Phrases

You get gold out of earth and earth out of gold. i. e. you buy land with money.

This proverb highlights the unpredictable nature of luck and timing. It suggests that when one is going through a fortunate period, even a worthless effort (mud) turns into wealth (gold), but during an unfortunate period, even a valuable investment (gold) can turn into a loss (mud). It is often used to describe the irony of success and failure.

There are many who complain/shout, but none who solve the problem.

This expression is used to describe a situation where many people are ready to point out problems, criticize, or complain loudly, but nobody is willing to take responsibility or provide a constructive solution.

If someone scolds, the words go into the air; if you eat, the food goes inside.

This proverb is used to encourage someone to ignore verbal abuse or insults. It suggests that harsh words are intangible and vanish like the wind without causing physical harm, whereas food provides actual nourishment. It is often said to someone who is upset by criticism or scolding, advising them to stay resilient and focus on their own well-being instead of dwelling on others' words.

If you give him butter he cannot swallow it, if you give him your finger he cannot bite it.

This expression is used to describe a person who appears extremely innocent, naive, or passive to the point of being helpless or dull-witted. It often refers to someone who lacks the basic initiative or reaction expected in common situations.

As demure as if butter would not melt in his mouth, and yet cheese will not choke him.

There are comforters but no real helpers.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where many people offer sympathy or words of comfort (consolation), but no one actually steps forward to help solve the problem or clear the debt. It highlights the gap between verbal empathy and practical assistance.

They will eat if you feed them, but will they bear it if you scold them?

This expression highlights that while people are happy to accept benefits, favors, or gifts, they will not tolerate disrespect or insults in return. It is often used to remind someone that providing for others (like food or money) does not give them the right to be abusive or rude, as human dignity is valued above material gains.

A crowd as vast as the head, but no one to care for the head itself.

This proverb refers to a situation where a person has many relatives or followers (a large support system), yet none of them are helpful or available when the person actually needs personal care or assistance. It highlights the irony of having a large social circle that is useless in times of individual need.

If you abuse—anger; if you beat—pain.

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely sensitive or lacks resilience. It highlights that they react negatively to even the smallest forms of criticism or physical hardship. It can also be used to point out obvious cause-and-effect reactions in human emotions and physical sensations.

The abuse which is heaped on me goes to the winds, but the food which I eat goes within.

This expression is used to advise someone to be thick-skinned or indifferent to verbal abuse or insults. It suggests that harsh words have no physical form and vanish into the air without causing harm, whereas food provides actual nourishment. It is often said to encourage someone not to take criticism to heart as long as their basic needs are met.

A mean sycophant.

There is no one to soothe, no one to resolve, and no one to lift you up if you fall to the bottom.

This expression describes a state of total helplessness and isolation. It is used when someone has no family, friends, or support system to offer comfort in grief, solve their problems, or help them recover from a downfall or financial crisis.