వెన్న పెట్టితే మింగలేదు, వేలు పెట్టితే కరవలేదు.

venna pettite mingaledu, velu pettite karavaledu.

Translation

If you give him butter he cannot swallow it, if you give him your finger he cannot bite it.

Meaning

This expression is used to describe a person who appears extremely innocent, naive, or passive to the point of being helpless or dull-witted. It often refers to someone who lacks the basic initiative or reaction expected in common situations.

Notes

As demure as if butter would not melt in his mouth, and yet cheese will not choke him.

Related Phrases

While the father gave to the Dasaris, the mother gave to the Jangams.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where a husband and wife (or two people in charge) are both overly generous or spendthrift in different ways, leading to the depletion of their resources. It highlights a lack of coordination or mutual recklessness in managing household wealth or assets.

You get gold out of earth and earth out of gold. i. e. you buy land with money.

This proverb highlights the unpredictable nature of luck and timing. It suggests that when one is going through a fortunate period, even a worthless effort (mud) turns into wealth (gold), but during an unfortunate period, even a valuable investment (gold) can turn into a loss (mud). It is often used to describe the irony of success and failure.

If I give you rice, you will eat it up; if I give you a cloth, it will wear out; but if I brand you, it will last for ever. Said by a stingy person to a beggar.

This proverb is a cynical take on human nature and gratitude. It suggests that acts of kindness, like feeding someone or gifting clothes, are temporary and soon forgotten, whereas a hurt, an insult, or a physical scar (metaphorically represented by a 'brand' or 'burn') is remembered for a lifetime. It is used to describe how people tend to dwell on negative experiences more than positive ones.

If a son is served the same way a son-in-law is served, the house will become hollow/bankrupt.

In Telugu culture, sons-in-law are traditionally treated as honored guests with lavish meals and extra care. This proverb humorously points out that such extravagance is unsustainable for everyday family members. It is used to caution against excessive spending or over-pampering someone within the household to the point of financial ruin.

When the master fed the Dâsaris (devotees of Vishṇu), the mistress fed the Jangams (devotees of Śiva). Applied to a spirit of contradiction.

This proverb describes a situation where both partners in a couple or group are equally charitable, or more commonly, equally wasteful and extravagant in spending resources on outsiders. It is used to highlight a lack of financial coordination or a mutual tendency to give away assets, often leading to the depletion of the household's wealth.

There is no waste in charity, and there are no wages for forced labor.

This proverb highlights two economic truths in traditional society: first, that money spent on charity or righteous causes is never a waste as it earns merit; second, that forced or involuntary labor (vetti) never results in any monetary compensation or earnings for the worker.

If you feed, [people] will eat; but if you abuse none will bear it.

This proverb highlights human nature regarding respect and dignity. It means that while people are happy to accept favors or gifts, they will not tolerate being insulted or treated poorly. It is used to advise someone that providing material help does not give them the right to verbal abuse.

A hypocrite who acts as if they wouldn't bite even if you put a finger in their mouth.

This expression is used to describe a person who pretends to be extremely innocent, naive, or harmless on the outside, while actually being cunning or manipulative. It characterizes someone putting on an act of extreme docility to hide their true nature.

They will eat if you feed them, but will they bear it if you scold them?

This expression highlights that while people are happy to accept benefits, favors, or gifts, they will not tolerate disrespect or insults in return. It is often used to remind someone that providing for others (like food or money) does not give them the right to be abusive or rude, as human dignity is valued above material gains.

Neither eaten nor caught, at least wear a bindi/dot.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone has gained no actual benefit or success from their efforts, but still tries to maintain appearances or asks for a small, superficial token of recognition to save face.