ఆడదాని చేతి అర్థం, మగవాడి చేతి బిడ్డ నిలవవు.

adadani cheti artham, magavadi cheti bidda nilavavu.

Translation

Money in a woman's hand and a child in a man's hand will not stay.

Meaning

This traditional proverb suggests that wealth held by a woman is quickly spent on household needs, while a man may lack the patience or nurturing skill to keep a child calm or safe for long. It is used to describe roles or situations where resources or responsibilities are perceived to be inherently unstable.

Related Phrases

Like a snake in a monkey's paw. Jacko is afraid of it, but won't let it go.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone who is fickle, irresponsible, or lacks judgment is given control over something dangerous or sensitive. Just as a monkey doesn't know how to handle a snake safely—either hurting itself, the snake, or others by swinging it around—giving power or a delicate task to an incompetent person leads to unpredictable and harmful consequences.

Money left in the hands of a woman wont last; a child left in the hands of a man wont live.

This traditional proverb suggests that wealth tends to be spent quickly when managed by a woman (historically implying domestic expenses or lack of financial restraint), while a child may not thrive under a man's sole care due to a perceived lack of nurturing skills. It is used to describe situations where resources or responsibilities are placed in hands that are traditionally considered ill-equipped to preserve them.

Where is the respect for the left hand compared to the respect for the right hand?

This expression is used to highlight the inherent inequality or discrimination in treatment between two entities, despite them being part of the same whole or family. It refers to the traditional cultural preference for the right hand over the left, signifying that one person or thing often receives more honor or priority than another.

A garland of flowers in a monkey's paw.

This expression is used to describe a situation where a valuable object or a position of responsibility is given to someone who is incapable of understanding its value or doesn't know how to handle it properly, eventually leading to its destruction.

A good thing thrown away on a stupid person.

A mirror in a woman's hand and a child in a man's hand do not survive.

This is a traditional proverb highlighting gender-stereotypical roles from the past. It suggests that a mirror in a woman's hand will break because she uses it too frequently, and a baby in a man's hand will not thrive because he lacks the natural nurturing patience or skill required for childcare. In modern usage, it is often cited to remark on the lack of care or the inherent risk of mishandling something when it is not in the hands of an 'expert' or 'natural' caretaker.

If in hand, it is wealth; if nearby, she is the wife.

This proverb highlights the transient nature of value based on possession and proximity. It implies that money is only useful when you actually hold it (liquid/available), and a wife is a companion only when she is present with you. It is often used to emphasize the importance of having resources or loved ones physically accessible rather than just 'on paper' or far away.

A sister-in-law is half a husband.

This proverb describes the significant authority, influence, and sometimes interference a husband's sister (aadabidda) has over his wife in a traditional Indian household. It implies that her power is second only to the husband.

There is no woman who cannot cook rice and no man who cannot weave a cot.

This traditional proverb highlights the basic, essential life skills that were historically expected of every individual based on their role in the household. It suggests that certain fundamental tasks are so universal that one cannot claim ignorance of them; it is often used to emphasize that everyone should at least know the basics of their responsibilities.

The oil on the hand being spent

This expression is used when someone has to spend their own hard-earned money or bear a significant personal expense for something, often unexpectedly or as a penalty. It signifies a personal financial loss or 'burning a hole in one's pocket.'

Like a louse in a Jain's hand.

This expression refers to a situation where one is trapped or stuck in a position where they are neither being helped nor let go, leading to prolonged suffering. It originates from the Jain principle of non-violence (Ahimsa), where a Jain might catch a louse but, refusing to kill it, keeps it in their hand, causing discomfort to both.