బిచ్చగాడిని పొమ్మన్నా అత్త చెప్పాలి, కోడలు పంపాలి

bichchagadini pommanna atta cheppali, kodalu pampali

Translation

Even to tell a beggar to leave, the mother-in-law must say it and the daughter-in-law must execute it.

Meaning

This proverb highlights the rigid hierarchy and traditional power dynamics within a household. It suggests that while the daughter-in-law does the actual work, the final authority or decision-making power rests with the elder (mother-in-law). It is used to describe situations where even simple tasks require a formal chain of command or permission from superiors.

Related Phrases

Dammanna's raid won't leave even if told to go

This proverb is used to describe a persistent problem, an unwanted guest, or a stubborn situation that refuses to go away despite several attempts to get rid of it. It refers to a nuisance that has overstayed its welcome.

She that gave neither food nor drink, beat [me] and said "be off." Said by a beggar.

This proverb describes a person who is not only uncharitable or unhelpful but also behaves rudely or aggressively towards those seeking help. It is used to highlight a situation where instead of receiving expected hospitality or assistance, one receives harsh treatment.

Seeing a poor person, even parched grains jump.

This proverb is used to describe people who, despite having very little or being of low status themselves, try to mock or look down upon someone they perceive as even poorer or weaker. It highlights the irony of someone insignificant showing arrogance.

Like trying to lean a ladder against Vempali plants.

The Vempali (Wild Indigo) is a small, weak-stemmed shrub that cannot support any weight. This expression is used to describe a futile effort or an impossible task where someone tries to rely on something that lacks the necessary strength or foundation. It signifies misplaced effort or depending on an unreliable source.

A new beggar doesn't know when the sun sets

This proverb describes a person who is new to a job or position and works with excessive, often annoying, enthusiasm or over-diligence. It is used to mock someone who doesn't know the limits or the 'unwritten rules' of their new role, overdoing things because of their lack of experience.

If the daughter-in-law of one's choice arrives, she puts grass/trash in one's hair bun.

This proverb highlights the irony of high expectations. It suggests that even if you handpick someone (like a daughter-in-law) thinking they will be perfect, they might still turn out to be troublesome or disrespectful. It is used to describe situations where something we desired or chose ourselves ends up causing us distress or irony.

A new beggar doesn't know the time of day.

This proverb is used to describe someone who is new to a job or position and works with excessive, often misplaced, zeal or without understanding the practical constraints. Just as a new beggar might keep asking for alms at odd hours without realizing when people are likely to give, a novice often overdoes things or lacks the experience to judge the right timing and boundaries.

An old barber and a new washerman. An old physician, a young lawyer. A barber learns to shave by shaving fools.

This proverb refers to traditional preferences in village life: a barber's razor or tools are considered better when they are 'old' (well-seasoned/tested), whereas a washerman is judged by how 'new' (clean/fresh) the clothes look. It is used to describe how different professions or situations require different standards—some value experience and age, while others value freshness and appearance.

Six months after the death of the mother-in-law, tears came into the eyes of the daughter-in-law.

This proverb describes a situation where a person shows a delayed, insincere, or hypocritical emotional reaction. It is used to mock someone who pretends to care about a loss or an event long after it happened, or when their reaction is clearly performative rather than genuine.

Like placing a ladder against a Vempali plant.

The Vempali (Wild Indigo) is a very small, thin shrub that grows only a few feet high. Placing a ladder against it is absurd and impossible. This proverb is used to describe someone attempting a completely unnecessary or disproportionately large effort for a tiny task, or trying to do something that is logically impossible due to the nature of the object involved.