దూడ కుడిస్తేగాని దుత్త నానదు (తడవదు)

duda kudistegani dutta nanadu (tadavadu)

Translation

The milk pot won't get wet unless the calf suckles.

Meaning

This proverb highlights the interdependency of actions or processes. In traditional milking, the cow only releases milk after the calf starts suckling. It is used to signify that certain results cannot be achieved without a specific prerequisite action or a small initial sacrifice/concession.

Related Phrases

The cow will not let the milk flow unless the calf nudges the udder.

This proverb implies that people often do not perform their duties or provide what is needed until they are nudged, urged, or pressured. It is used to describe situations where a desired outcome requires some initial effort, prodding, or a catalyst to initiate the process.

It will not sprout unless watered, and it will not cover unless wet.

This proverb is often used to describe items or situations that require specific conditions to become functional. In a literal sense, it refers to a rough wool blanket (gongali) which is stiff when dry but becomes flexible and usable only when damp. Figuratively, it describes people who only work or cooperate under specific pressure or when their basic needs are met.

If you go to exercise authority, you will end up with a pot in your hand

This proverb is used to warn against interfering in others' affairs or trying to show off authority where it isn't needed. It suggests that such overreaching behavior often leads to losing one's dignity or ending up with menial tasks (symbolized by the 'dutta' or small pot). It is used to advise someone to mind their own business to avoid embarrassment.

Is it that the calf has sucked, or that [ the milk ] has fallen into the pail? In either way beneficial.

This expression is used to question where a resource or money went when there is nothing to show for it. It highlights a situation where something has been consumed or spent, but the result is neither productive (like a calf growing) nor preserved (like milk stored in a pot). It is typically used when someone is unaccountable for losses or missing items.

Unless the calf sucks, the cow will not let milk into her udder.

This proverb is used to illustrate that certain outcomes or actions can only be triggered by a specific, natural catalyst. It often implies that one must offer a small incentive or initiate a process to get the desired result, or that a mother's affection/cooperation is invoked by the presence or needs of her child.

While my sister enjoyed every luxury, my brother-in-law had nothing to eat but the scum of the porridge. Said of a man who is poorly treated in his father-in-law's house while his wife fares well.

This proverb describes a situation of extreme inequality within a family or partnership where one person enjoys all the benefits and luxuries, while the person responsible for or supporting them is left with the remains or suffers in poverty. It is used to highlight unfair distribution of wealth or credit.

At first one Mânika, after the calf's death a potful [ of milk ].

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone exaggerates the value or quantity of something only after it is lost or gone. It mocks people who claim a great loss but didn't value the object much when it was actually available.

It won't get on the bed unless a bribe is given.

This expression is used to describe an extreme state of corruption where nothing moves or functions without a bribe. It satirically suggests that even a basic or inanimate object requires a payoff to perform its duty.

The madness won't be cured until the marriage happens, and the marriage won't happen until the madness is cured.

This expression describes a classic 'Catch-22' or a circular deadlock situation where two necessary conditions are dependent on each other, making it impossible to resolve either. It is often used to describe bureaucratic hurdles or complex problems where one cannot start without the other, yet neither can move forward.

The calf's milk was just enough for the pot.

This expression is used to describe a situation where the resources or earnings available are barely enough to cover the basic expenses or the immediate container, leaving no surplus for anything else. It is often used when income is entirely consumed by necessities.