దూడ కుడిస్తేగాని, ఆవు చేపదు

duda kudistegani, avu chepadu

Translation

Unless the calf sucks, the cow will not let milk into her udder.

Meaning

This proverb is used to illustrate that certain outcomes or actions can only be triggered by a specific, natural catalyst. It often implies that one must offer a small incentive or initiate a process to get the desired result, or that a mother's affection/cooperation is invoked by the presence or needs of her child.

Related Phrases

The cow will not let the milk flow unless the calf nudges the udder.

This proverb implies that people often do not perform their duties or provide what is needed until they are nudged, urged, or pressured. It is used to describe situations where a desired outcome requires some initial effort, prodding, or a catalyst to initiate the process.

Only waste of castor oil, but not [ saving ] the child's life. Useless endeavours.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where, despite putting in effort, resources, or expensive remedies, the desired result is not achieved. It signifies a futile attempt where the investment (symbolized by the medicinal castor oil) is lost without saving the outcome (symbolized by the child).

It will not sprout unless watered, and it will not cover unless wet.

This proverb is often used to describe items or situations that require specific conditions to become functional. In a literal sense, it refers to a rough wool blanket (gongali) which is stiff when dry but becomes flexible and usable only when damp. Figuratively, it describes people who only work or cooperate under specific pressure or when their basic needs are met.

The milk pot won't get wet unless the calf suckles.

This proverb highlights the interdependency of actions or processes. In traditional milking, the cow only releases milk after the calf starts suckling. It is used to signify that certain results cannot be achieved without a specific prerequisite action or a small initial sacrifice/concession.

You can see the depth of a well, but not the depth of the mind. No one can see into another further than his teeth. ( Danish. )

This proverb highlights that while it is easy to measure or understand physical and material things, it is impossible to truly know or measure a person's inner thoughts, intentions, or character. It is often used to advise caution when trusting people, as their outward appearance may not reflect their hidden motives.

It won't be settled unless I give four (slaps).

This expression is used when someone is being stubborn, mischievous, or uncooperative. It implies that the person will only behave or understand the situation if they are physically disciplined or sternly reprimanded. In a broader sense, it means some problems require a 'tough' approach rather than gentle persuasion.

Is it that the calf has sucked, or that [ the milk ] has fallen into the pail? In either way beneficial.

This expression is used to question where a resource or money went when there is nothing to show for it. It highlights a situation where something has been consumed or spent, but the result is neither productive (like a calf growing) nor preserved (like milk stored in a pot). It is typically used when someone is unaccountable for losses or missing items.

While my sister enjoyed every luxury, my brother-in-law had nothing to eat but the scum of the porridge. Said of a man who is poorly treated in his father-in-law's house while his wife fares well.

This proverb describes a situation of extreme inequality within a family or partnership where one person enjoys all the benefits and luxuries, while the person responsible for or supporting them is left with the remains or suffers in poverty. It is used to highlight unfair distribution of wealth or credit.

The water is not holy, unless it be poured into the shell.

This proverb signifies that certain actions or words gain value, legitimacy, or recognition only when they come from an authoritative source or a person of high stature. It is often used to describe situations where a valid point is ignored until an important person validates it.

It won't get on the bed unless a bribe is given.

This expression is used to describe an extreme state of corruption where nothing moves or functions without a bribe. It satirically suggests that even a basic or inanimate object requires a payoff to perform its duty.