ఇంటివాడు ఈకన కొడితే, పొరుగువాడు పోకన కొడతాడు

intivadu ikana kodite, poruguvadu pokana kodatadu

Translation

If the owner of the house hits with a feather, the neighbor will hit with a rod.

Meaning

This proverb warns that if you treat your own family members or belongings with disrespect or negligence in public, others will feel entitled to treat them even more harshly. It emphasizes that the way you value your own sets the standard for how the world will treat them.

Related Phrases

When the owner says the buffalo is barren, the neighbor says it is a milch buffalo.

This proverb describes a situation where someone who has no firsthand knowledge or responsibility regarding a matter contradicts the person who knows the actual facts. It is used to mock people who offer unsolicited, overly optimistic, or ignorant opinions that contradict the reality faced by the person involved.

When his Puṭṭi was found to be of short measure, he tested the Pandum and Para of his neighbour. Puṭṭi, Pandum and Para are measures of capacity. When a man was found cheating with a false measure, he tried to prove that his neighbour's measures were too large.

This proverb is used to describe a person who ignores their own glaring flaws or lack of resources while trying to compete with or involve themselves in others' business. It highlights the irony of someone attempting to manage a task when they don't even have the basic tools ready, often resulting in waste or failure.

One day a feast, one day medicine

This expression warns about the consequences of overindulgence. It implies that if you feast excessively today, you will have to take medicine for health issues tomorrow. It is used to advise moderation in eating and lifestyle habits.

If shame is beaten with a broom, self-respect/shame will beat with a winnowing basket

This proverb is used to describe a person who has completely lost their sense of shame or dignity. It implies that if someone ignores a small insult (symbolized by a broom), they will eventually face a much larger, more public humiliation (symbolized by a winnowing basket). It is used to caution against thick-skinned behavior or disregarding one's reputation.

When the homeowner said 'Ilo', the neighbor said 'Polo'.

This proverb describes a situation where someone blindly follows or joins in a conversation or action without knowing the context or meaning, simply to appear involved. It highlights the tendency of people to chime in or mimic others unnecessarily.

A person without a coin cannot even buy a betel nut.

This proverb highlights the importance of money for even the smallest tasks or necessities. It suggests that without financial resources, one's ability to act or progress in the world is severely limited, emphasizing that money is a fundamental requirement for basic transactions.

One day holding (fasting); one day breaking fast.

This expression describes the unpredictable nature of life, especially regarding financial or food security. 'Dharana' refers to fasting or self-restraint (often due to lack), while 'Parana' refers to the meal that breaks a fast or a feast. It is used to describe someone whose circumstances fluctuate between periods of scarcity and abundance, or simply the ups and downs of life's fortunes.

A precarious subsistence. Change of fortune is the lot of life. To-day a king, to-morrow nothing. (French.)

When the owner said his she-buffalo was barren, the neigh- bour said it was milch. Applied to a spirit of contradiction.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where an outsider or neighbor contradicts the owner's first-hand knowledge with baseless or overly optimistic claims. It highlights the tendency of people to comment or give unsolicited advice on matters they don't fully understand, often being more stubborn about the facts than the person directly involved in the situation.

If the husband beats at home, the beggar in the street will also beat.

This proverb describes a situation where if a person is not respected or protected within their own home or circle, outsiders will also feel emboldened to mistreat or disrespect them. It highlights that one's vulnerability starts with a lack of support from their own people.

When an outsider says it's a pregnant buffalo, the owner says it's a barren buffalo.

This proverb describes a situation where an owner or an insider devalues their own possessions or family members while an outsider recognizes their true worth. It is used to highlight a lack of appreciation for what one already has, or a tendency to be overly critical of one's own people or assets.