కన్నతల్లికి కడుపు కాలితే, పిన్నతల్లికి పిర్ర కాలిందిట
kannatalliki kadupu kalite, pinnatalliki pirra kalindita
When the biological mother's stomach was burning (with hunger), the stepmother's butt was burning.
This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone who is truly suffering or in need is ignored, while someone else makes a frivolous or exaggerated complaint to gain attention or compete. It highlights the contrast between genuine distress and fake or disproportionate grievances.
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కరక్కాయ కన్నతల్లి
karakkaya kannatalli
The Myrobalan fruit is like one's own mother
This expression refers to the medicinal value of the Haritaki (Karakkaya) fruit in Ayurveda. It implies that just as a mother cares for her child's well-being and health without fail, this medicinal nut protects and heals the body from various ailments. It is used to emphasize the importance of traditional medicine and natural remedies.
తల్లి తర్పణానికే తక్కువైతే, పినతల్లికి పెట్టరా పిండప్రదానం అన్నట్లు.
talli tarpananike takkuvaite, pinatalliki pettara pindapradanam annatlu.
When there is not enough even for the mother's rites, he asks to perform rituals for the stepmother/aunt.
This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone is unable to fulfill basic or essential needs, yet they are asked or attempt to fulfill secondary or less important demands. It highlights misplaced priorities or the irony of demanding extra when the fundamentals are not met.
ఒకడు పినతల్లికి తప్పినవాడు, ఇంకొకడు తల్లికి తప్పినవాడు.
okadu pinatalliki tappinavadu, inkokadu talliki tappinavadu.
One missed being born to the maternal aunt, the other missed being born to the mother.
This expression is used to describe two people who are equally wicked, cunning, or troublesome. It implies that there is no difference in their bad character; if one is bad, the other is slightly worse or just as bad. It is similar to saying 'two of a kind' or 'chips off the same block' in a negative context.
కన్న తల్లికి కంటతడి, చవతితల్లికి కన్నుకుట్టు
kanna talliki kantatadi, chavatitalliki kannukuttu
Tears for the birth mother, envy for the stepmother.
This proverb contrasts true empathy with jealousy. It implies that while a birth mother (or a true well-wisher) feels genuine sorrow for one's struggles, a stepmother (or a rival) feels envious of one's success or status. It is used to describe situations where some people are saddened by your pain while others are spiteful of your happiness.
తల్లి తర్పణానికే తక్కువైతే, పినతల్లికి పిండప్రదానమట
talli tarpananike takkuvaite, pinatalliki pindapradanamata
When there isn't enough for the mother's rites, one offers rituals to the stepmother.
This proverb is used to criticize someone who ignores their primary responsibilities or immediate family needs while showing off or performing unnecessary favors for others. It highlights the irony of neglecting a core duty while pretending to be generous or diligent elsewhere.
తల్లికి కూడుపెట్టనివాడు పినతల్లికి చీరపెట్టేదట
talliki kudupettanivadu pinatalliki chirapettedata
One who doesn't feed his own mother is said to buy a saree for his maternal aunt.
This proverb is used to criticize hypocrisy or misplaced priorities. It refers to someone who neglects their fundamental duties or those closest to them, yet tries to gain a good reputation by performing grand gestures for others or distant relatives. It highlights the irony of showing off generosity to the world while failing to meet basic responsibilities at home.
కడుపుకు పెట్టిందే కన్నతల్లి.
kadupuku pettinde kannatalli.
The one who feeds the stomach is the biological mother.
This proverb emphasizes that providing nourishment and care is the ultimate act of motherhood. It suggests that a person's true benefactor or caretaker deserves the same respect and status as one's own mother, highlighting that love and provision are the foundations of a parental bond.
కన్న తల్లిని కాళ్లు పట్టి ఈడ్చి, పినతల్లికి పెట్టరా పిండప్రదానము అన్నట్టు.
kanna tallini kallu patti idchi, pinatalliki pettara pindapradanamu annattu.
Like pulling away your own mother by the legs and saying "Offer the rice-ball for the maternal aunt."
This proverb is used to describe a person who neglects their primary duties or the people who truly care for them, while performing grand, hypocritical acts of service for others or for outward appearances. It highlights the irony of being cruel to those who deserve love while pretending to be virtuous elsewhere.
విన్నమ్మ వీపు కాలింది, కన్నమ్మ కడుపు కాలింది
vinnamma vipu kalindi, kannamma kadupu kalindi
The back of the woman who heard burned, the stomach of the woman who gave birth burned.
This proverb contrasts the depth of empathy with biological maternal pain. It means that while a casual observer or neighbor (the one who heard) might feel a superficial or outward sympathy (back burning), only a mother (the one who gave birth) feels the true, deep, internal agony (stomach burning) when a child is in trouble. It is used to describe how a mother's suffering for her children is incomparable to anyone else's.
కన్నతల్లిని కాళ్ళు పట్టి ఈడ్చి, పినతల్లికి పిండప్రదానం చేసినట్టు
kannatallini kallu patti idchi, pinatalliki pindapradanam chesinattu
Dragging one's own mother by the legs while offering ritual food (Pindam) to the stepmother.
This proverb describes a person who neglects or mistreats those who are truly close to them and have a primary claim to their care, while performing grand, hypocritical acts of devotion or charity toward others for the sake of appearances. It highlights gross ingratitude and misplaced priorities.