మెత్తగా ఉంటే మొత్త బుద్ధి వేస్తుంది

mettaga unte motta buddhi vestundi

Translation

If you are soft, people will feel like hitting you on the head.

Meaning

This proverb is used to warn that if a person is too submissive, overly kind, or weak, others will naturally try to take advantage of them or mistreat them. It suggests that one must maintain a certain level of firmness to command respect.

Related Phrases

Seeing a soft person makes one want to strike them

This expression refers to the human tendency to take advantage of or bully those who are gentle, submissive, or overly kind. It is used to describe situations where someone's politeness is mistaken for weakness, leading others to exploit them.

A mother-in-law is never soft, and a knife is never soft.

This proverb is used to describe relationships or objects that are inherently sharp or harsh by nature. It suggests that just as a knife's purpose is to cut and it cannot be blunt or soft, a mother-in-law (in traditional contexts) is expected to be strict or demanding, and one should not expect otherwise.

If the mother who serves food has the intention, she can serve in any row.

This proverb highlights that if someone genuinely intends to help or give, they will find a way to do so regardless of the circumstances or their position. It is used to emphasize that the willingness of the giver is more important than the formal order or situation.

If it is green, it crawls; if it is hot, it leaves.

This is a traditional Telugu riddle where the answer is 'Moisture' or 'The feeling of lushness'. In a metaphorical sense, it is often used to describe wealth or prosperity (represented by 'greenery'), noting that people will flock to you when you are prosperous but will abandon you when times become difficult or 'hot'.

Will the mother-in-law's mindset and the daughter-in-law's mindset ever be the same?

This proverb highlights the inherent differences in perspectives, upbringing, and priorities between two people of different roles or generations. It is typically used to explain why conflicts or misunderstandings arise between people in a relationship, suggesting that their ways of thinking are naturally distinct and unlikely to perfectly align.

Upon seeing a soft-natured person, one feels like hitting them.

This proverb describes the human tendency to exploit or take advantage of those who are mild-mannered, gentle, or submissive. It suggests that people often bully or dominate those who do not resist or stand up for themselves.

While the old leaf falls, the new leaf laughs.

This proverb is used to describe the irony of the younger generation mocking or ignoring the elderly's decline, forgetting that they too will eventually age and face the same fate. It highlights the cycle of life and the inevitability of aging.

Man's intellect is crude, woman's intellect is subtle/deeper.

This proverb highlights a traditional observation about gendered thinking styles. It suggests that men tend to have a blunt or straightforward approach (motu), whereas women possess a more refined, intricate, or farsighted perspective (avara). It is used to contrast the simplicity of a man's logic with the complexity and depth of a woman's intuition.

Seeing one person makes you want to give, seeing another makes you want to hit

This proverb describes how different people's behavior or character evokes different reactions. One person's kindness or need inspires generosity, while another person's arrogance or annoyance provokes irritation and the urge to scold or strike them.

While the lower palm leaf is burning, the upper one is laughing.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone laughs at others' misfortunes without realizing that the same fate awaits them. Just as the fire consuming the bottom leaf of a palm tree will eventually reach the top, one's current safety is often temporary in a shared crisis.