నీ పెండ్లి పాడైపోయిందిలే, నా పెండ్లికి దివిటీలు పట్టమన్నాడట

ni pendli padaipoyindile, na pendliki divitilu pattamannadata

Translation

He said, 'Your wedding is ruined anyway, so come and hold the torches for my wedding.'

Meaning

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely selfish and lacks empathy. It refers to someone who, instead of comforting or helping a person in a crisis, tries to exploit that person's misfortune for their own personal gain or service.

Related Phrases

When asked to speak auspicious words, the groom said all the married women at the wedding are his senior wives.

This proverb is used to describe a person who says something incredibly foolish, offensive, or inappropriate when asked to speak or act properly. It highlights the irony of someone ruining a positive situation by being tactless or utterly lacking common sense.

Your marriage is rubbish, come to my marriage and betel.

This expression describes a person who is extremely selfish and dismissive of others' priorities. It refers to someone who ignores the importance of another person's significant event (like their own wedding) while demanding they attend and participate in his own affairs.

For the wedding of an uncouth man, a stick serves as the musical instrument.

This expression is used to describe a situation where a simple or crude person receives a treatment or celebration that is equally crude or low-quality. It suggests that the arrangements or surroundings match the character or status of the person involved.

They said your wedding is ruined, so come to my wedding to collect the ritual betel leaves (tamboolam).

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely insensitive or selfish. It refers to a situation where someone ignores another person's tragedy or loss and instead asks them for help or participation in their own celebration. It highlights a complete lack of empathy.

Saying 'To hell with your wedding, come attend my death anniversary ceremony'

This expression describes an extremely selfish or insensitive person who disregards someone else's auspicious or important event (like a wedding) and expects them to prioritize their own unfortunate or minor situation (like a funeral ritual). It is used to mock someone's self-centeredness and lack of empathy.

The day after the marriage the goddess of misfortune appeared in the face of the bridegroom. The bridegroom looked a poor creature when stripped of all his finery.

This expression is used to describe someone who looks unusually gloomy, dull, or miserable during a time that is supposed to be joyful or celebratory. 'Peddamma' (Jyestha Devi) symbolizes misfortune or lethargy, contrasting with the expected happiness of a newlywed.

All shame is gone, junior wife; shall we at least go to the wedding, senior wife?

This expression is used to describe a person who lacks self-respect or has already lost their reputation and continues to act shamelessly without concern for social standing. It highlights a situation where someone, having already suffered a major embarrassment or failure, behaves as if nothing happened or tries to seek further social engagement despite their loss of dignity.

When asked how his marriage is half-finished, he said, 'I am ready as the groom, only the bride is needed for the other half.'

This humorous proverb is used to describe someone who claims to be halfway through a task when they have actually done nothing but be available. It mocks people who show excessive confidence or claim progress despite lacking the most essential components or cooperation of others to complete a task.

Like saying, 'May your wedding be ruined, but come and hold a torch at mine.'

This expression describes a person's extreme selfishness and lack of empathy. It refers to someone who curses or wishes ill upon others, yet shamelessly expects those same people to help them or serve them in their own endeavors.

When an elderly bridegroom was jokingly asked to say something funny, he replied " All the married ladies who have come to the marriage are my old wives." A person making himself ridiculous.

This proverb is used to describe someone who lacks common sense or humility, and instead of taking a compliment or a suggestion gracefully, they respond with an absurd, arrogant, or inappropriate remark. It mocks a person who, despite being in an awkward or late-stage situation (like an old man getting married), acts with unearned overconfidence or makes foolish claims that embarrass themselves.