నీ పెండ్లి పాడుగా ఉంది గాని నా పెండ్లి తాంబూలానికి రమ్మన్నాడట

ni pendli paduga undi gani na pendli tambulaniki rammannadata

Translation

Your marriage is rubbish, come to my marriage and betel.

Meaning

This expression describes a person who is extremely selfish and dismissive of others' priorities. It refers to someone who ignores the importance of another person's significant event (like their own wedding) while demanding they attend and participate in his own affairs.

Related Phrases

When asked to speak auspicious words, the groom said all the married women at the wedding are his senior wives.

This proverb is used to describe a person who says something incredibly foolish, offensive, or inappropriate when asked to speak or act properly. It highlights the irony of someone ruining a positive situation by being tactless or utterly lacking common sense.

They said your wedding is ruined, so come to my wedding to collect the ritual betel leaves (tamboolam).

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely insensitive or selfish. It refers to a situation where someone ignores another person's tragedy or loss and instead asks them for help or participation in their own celebration. It highlights a complete lack of empathy.

He said, 'Your wedding is ruined anyway, so come and hold the torches for my wedding.'

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely selfish and lacks empathy. It refers to someone who, instead of comforting or helping a person in a crisis, tries to exploit that person's misfortune for their own personal gain or service.

The day after the marriage the goddess of misfortune appeared in the face of the bridegroom. The bridegroom looked a poor creature when stripped of all his finery.

This expression is used to describe someone who looks unusually gloomy, dull, or miserable during a time that is supposed to be joyful or celebratory. 'Peddamma' (Jyestha Devi) symbolizes misfortune or lethargy, contrasting with the expected happiness of a newlywed.

For the wedding party, it's a festive bustle; for the one with muddy feet, it's a heavy burden hanging on.

This proverb highlights how different people perceive the same situation based on their personal circumstances. While a wedding is a joyous celebration for the family, the laborer or the person tasked with hard work (the one with muddy feet) only experiences the exhaustion and the weight of the tasks. It is used to describe situations where one person's celebration is another person's struggle.

The man in front is the bridegroom.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone chooses the most immediate or obvious option available because they lack the time, patience, or resources to look for a better alternative. It implies settling for what is right in front of one's eyes.

When asked how his marriage is half-finished, he said, 'I am ready as the groom, only the bride is needed for the other half.'

This humorous proverb is used to describe someone who claims to be halfway through a task when they have actually done nothing but be available. It mocks people who show excessive confidence or claim progress despite lacking the most essential components or cooperation of others to complete a task.

Like saying, 'May your wedding be ruined, but come and hold a torch at mine.'

This expression describes a person's extreme selfishness and lack of empathy. It refers to someone who curses or wishes ill upon others, yet shamelessly expects those same people to help them or serve them in their own endeavors.

Is there a marriage without Dâl, or a vegetable dressed with- out salt?

This proverb is used to emphasize that certain components are absolutely essential for an event or a task to be complete. Just as dal is a staple at a traditional Telugu wedding feast and salt is indispensable for taste in a curry, some things are fundamental requirements that cannot be ignored.

Said to a great friend whose presence at an entertainment is indis- pensable.

When an elderly bridegroom was jokingly asked to say something funny, he replied " All the married ladies who have come to the marriage are my old wives." A person making himself ridiculous.

This proverb is used to describe someone who lacks common sense or humility, and instead of taking a compliment or a suggestion gracefully, they respond with an absurd, arrogant, or inappropriate remark. It mocks a person who, despite being in an awkward or late-stage situation (like an old man getting married), acts with unearned overconfidence or makes foolish claims that embarrass themselves.