నీ పెళ్ళి పాడైపోను, నా పెళ్ళికి వచ్చి కాగడా వెయ్యి అన్నట్లు

ni pelli padaiponu, na pelliki vachchi kagada veyyi annatlu

Translation

Like saying, 'May your wedding be ruined, but come and hold a torch at mine.'

Meaning

This expression describes a person's extreme selfishness and lack of empathy. It refers to someone who curses or wishes ill upon others, yet shamelessly expects those same people to help them or serve them in their own endeavors.

Related Phrases

When asked to speak auspicious words, the groom said all the married women at the wedding are his senior wives.

This proverb is used to describe a person who says something incredibly foolish, offensive, or inappropriate when asked to speak or act properly. It highlights the irony of someone ruining a positive situation by being tactless or utterly lacking common sense.

Your marriage is rubbish, come to my marriage and betel.

This expression describes a person who is extremely selfish and dismissive of others' priorities. It refers to someone who ignores the importance of another person's significant event (like their own wedding) while demanding they attend and participate in his own affairs.

They said your wedding is ruined, so come to my wedding to collect the ritual betel leaves (tamboolam).

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely insensitive or selfish. It refers to a situation where someone ignores another person's tragedy or loss and instead asks them for help or participation in their own celebration. It highlights a complete lack of empathy.

He said, 'Your wedding is ruined anyway, so come and hold the torches for my wedding.'

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely selfish and lacks empathy. It refers to someone who, instead of comforting or helping a person in a crisis, tries to exploit that person's misfortune for their own personal gain or service.

Saying 'To hell with your wedding, come attend my death anniversary ceremony'

This expression describes an extremely selfish or insensitive person who disregards someone else's auspicious or important event (like a wedding) and expects them to prioritize their own unfortunate or minor situation (like a funeral ritual). It is used to mock someone's self-centeredness and lack of empathy.

The day after the marriage the goddess of misfortune appeared in the face of the bridegroom. The bridegroom looked a poor creature when stripped of all his finery.

This expression is used to describe someone who looks unusually gloomy, dull, or miserable during a time that is supposed to be joyful or celebratory. 'Peddamma' (Jyestha Devi) symbolizes misfortune or lethargy, contrasting with the expected happiness of a newlywed.

For the wedding party, it's a festive bustle; for the one with muddy feet, it's a heavy burden hanging on.

This proverb highlights how different people perceive the same situation based on their personal circumstances. While a wedding is a joyous celebration for the family, the laborer or the person tasked with hard work (the one with muddy feet) only experiences the exhaustion and the weight of the tasks. It is used to describe situations where one person's celebration is another person's struggle.

At the marriage ceremony of a god all are rulers. Where there is no head, every one does what he likes.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where there is no clear leader or hierarchy, and everyone acts as if they are in charge or equal in authority. It is often applied to social gatherings or collaborative tasks where everyone gives orders but no one follows them, or where no specific person is assigned the responsibility of a host.

Any quantity of presents must suffice at a dead man's marriage. When a marriage takes place, presents of cloths are sent to the bride and bridegroom by their relations. Return gifts of about equal value are made shortly after the marriage. Should the bridegroom, however, die during the ceremonies, no presents are returned, and no complaints are therefore made regarding the value of those received.

This expression is used to describe a situation where one should be content with whatever little benefit or payment they receive in a hopeless or lost situation. Since a dead man cannot marry, any dowry received is an unexpected bonus from a failed endeavor.

When an elderly bridegroom was jokingly asked to say something funny, he replied " All the married ladies who have come to the marriage are my old wives." A person making himself ridiculous.

This proverb is used to describe someone who lacks common sense or humility, and instead of taking a compliment or a suggestion gracefully, they respond with an absurd, arrogant, or inappropriate remark. It mocks a person who, despite being in an awkward or late-stage situation (like an old man getting married), acts with unearned overconfidence or makes foolish claims that embarrass themselves.