పెండ్లికి ముందు బాగా కండ్లు తెరచుకొని చూచి, పెండ్లికాగానే కండ్లు సగం మూసుకుని చూచీ చూడనట్లుండాలి.
pendliki mundu baga kandlu terachukoni chuchi, pendlikagane kandlu sagam musukuni chuchi chudanatlundali.
Open your eyes wide before marriage, but after marriage, keep them half-closed and act as if you see but don't see.
This proverb advises individuals to be extremely cautious and observant while choosing a life partner. However, once married, it suggests that one should be tolerant and overlook minor faults or imperfections in their spouse to maintain a harmonious and happy relationship.
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తల్లి కడుపు చూచును, పెళ్లాము వీపు చూచును
talli kadupu chuchunu, pellamu vipu chuchunu
The mother will look at his belly the wife at his back. The mother will look to see how her son fares, the wife to see what her husband has brought home for her. Come but come stooping.
This proverb contrasts the different perspectives of love and dependency. A mother's love is selfless, worrying if her child has eaten enough (stomach), whereas a wife's perspective (historically in this context) might be focused on the provisions or earnings the husband brings home (the load on the back). It highlights the transition from being cared for to having responsibilities.
* 'Ακέφαλος μυθος. † II domandar costa poco.
మొగుడిని చూస్తే దండుగ, మిండని చూస్తే పండుగ
mogudini chuste danduga, mindani chuste panduga
Seeing the husband is a waste, seeing the lover is a festival.
This is a bold, satirical proverb used to describe a person who neglects their duties or legitimate relationships (like a husband) in favor of forbidden or exciting external attractions (like a lover). It is used to mock people who find no value in the things they already possess but are overjoyed by things that are fleeting or improper.
కళ్లు ఉండగానే కాటుక
kallu undagane katuka
[ Apply ] collyrium to your eyes while you have them.
This expression is used to describe a situation where someone is being cheated or robbed in broad daylight, or right in front of their eyes while they are fully aware. It signifies extreme audacity or boldness in deception, suggesting that the thief or deceiver is so daring that they act even when the victim is watching.
Make use of your opportunities before they pass from you.
తల్లిని చూచి పిల్లనూ, పాడిని చూచి బర్రెనూ తీసుకోవలెను
tallini chuchi pillanu, padini chuchi barrenu tisukovalenu
Look at the mother before you take the daughter; see how much milk the buffalo gives before you buy her.
This proverb suggests that the character and qualities of a person are often inherited or influenced by their upbringing and ancestry. It is commonly used in the context of marriage or forming long-term alliances, implying that observing the parents (background) provides a reliable preview of the individual's nature.
ఇల్లు కట్టి చూడు, పెళ్లి చేసి చూడు
illu katti chudu, pelli chesi chudu
Try building a house, try making a marriage. An expense greater than contemplated. Building and the marrying of children are great wasters.
This proverb highlights that building a home and organizing a marriage are the two most challenging and resource-intensive tasks in a person's life. It suggests that one only understands the true extent of the effort, financial strain, and unforeseen difficulties involved once they actually undertake these responsibilities.
గుండ్లు తేలి బెండ్లు మునిగినట్లు
gundlu teli bendlu muniginatlu
Like heavy boulders floating and light corks sinking
This expression describes an unnatural or chaotic situation where things are happening contrary to their nature or the established order. It is used when merit is ignored while incompetence is rewarded, or when the impossible happens while the obvious fails.
నా పెండ్లి సగమైన దంటే, ఎట్లనయ్యా అంటే, నేను పెండ్లి కొడుకుగా సిద్దంగా ఉన్నాను, మిగతా సగానికి పెండ్లికూతురే కావాలన్నాడట.
na pendli sagamaina dante, etlanayya ante, nenu pendli kodukuga siddanga unnanu, migata saganiki pendlikuture kavalannadata.
When asked how his marriage is half-finished, he said, 'I am ready as the groom, only the bride is needed for the other half.'
This humorous proverb is used to describe someone who claims to be halfway through a task when they have actually done nothing but be available. It mocks people who show excessive confidence or claim progress despite lacking the most essential components or cooperation of others to complete a task.
నీ పెళ్ళి పాడైపోను, నా పెళ్ళికి వచ్చి కాగడా వెయ్యి అన్నట్లు
ni pelli padaiponu, na pelliki vachchi kagada veyyi annatlu
Like saying, 'May your wedding be ruined, but come and hold a torch at mine.'
This expression describes a person's extreme selfishness and lack of empathy. It refers to someone who curses or wishes ill upon others, yet shamelessly expects those same people to help them or serve them in their own endeavors.
ఆడది చూసిన చేపల గుంటకు, మగవాడు చూసిన కందుల కళ్ళానికి వెళ్ళకూడదు.
adadi chusina chepala guntaku, magavadu chusina kandula kallaniki vellakudadu.
Do not go to a fish pond noticed by a woman, nor to a pigeon pea threshing floor noticed by a man.
This traditional proverb suggests that certain tasks or resources are best managed by those who have a keen eye for them. A woman is believed to be very efficient at spotting and gathering small resources like fish from a pond, leaving nothing behind. Similarly, a man is believed to be thorough in harvesting or guarding a threshing floor. It is used to describe situations where a resource has been so thoroughly picked over or managed by an expert that nothing remains for others.
ముద్దులు గులకరా ముదిపెండ్లి కొడకా అంటే, పెండ్లికి వచ్చిన పేరంటాండ్లు అందరూ నా పెద్ద పెండ్లాలు అన్నట్టు.
muddulu gulakara mudipendli kodaka ante, pendliki vachchina perantandlu andaru na pedda pendlalu annattu.
When an elderly bridegroom was jokingly asked to say something funny, he replied " All the married ladies who have come to the marriage are my old wives." A person making himself ridiculous.
This proverb is used to describe someone who lacks common sense or humility, and instead of taking a compliment or a suggestion gracefully, they respond with an absurd, arrogant, or inappropriate remark. It mocks a person who, despite being in an awkward or late-stage situation (like an old man getting married), acts with unearned overconfidence or makes foolish claims that embarrass themselves.