పెండ్లిని చూస్తూ ఒకడుంటే, పెండ్లాన్ని చూస్తూ ఒకడున్నాడు.

pendlini chustu okadunte, pendlanni chustu okadunnadu.

Translation

While one is looking at the wedding ceremony, another is looking at the bride.

Meaning

This proverb highlights how different people have different priorities or intentions in the same situation. While one person may be focused on the event or the process (the wedding), another may be focused on personal gain or a specific attraction (the wife). It is used to describe situations where people's motives are not aligned despite being in the same environment.

Related Phrases

When asked to cook, Perakka said she would fetch water while looking at the crowd.

This proverb describes a lazy person who uses any excuse or distraction to avoid their main responsibility. It refers to someone who procrastinates on a difficult task by offering to do a minor, easier task or by simply wandering off under the guise of helping.

The mother looks at the stomach, the wife looks at the pocket.

This proverb contrasts maternal love with the practical expectations of marital life. It suggests that a mother's primary concern is always her child's well-being and hunger, whereas a wife (metaphorically) focuses on the husband's financial stability and ability to provide for the family.

Try building a house, try making a marriage. An expense greater than contemplated. Building and the marrying of children are great wasters.

This proverb highlights that building a home and organizing a marriage are the two most challenging and resource-intensive tasks in a person's life. It suggests that one only understands the true extent of the effort, financial strain, and unforeseen difficulties involved once they actually undertake these responsibilities.

Open your eyes wide before marriage, but after marriage, keep them half-closed and act as if you see but don't see.

This proverb advises individuals to be extremely cautious and observant while choosing a life partner. However, once married, it suggests that one should be tolerant and overlook minor faults or imperfections in their spouse to maintain a harmonious and happy relationship.

While someone watched silently, it went away grazing.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone's passivity or inaction leads to a loss or a missed opportunity. It highlights how being a silent spectator while an issue is unfolding can result in the situation drifting out of control or moving away entirely. It is often used to criticize someone who failed to act when they should have.

If one person pulls the trunk, another pulls the branch.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where multiple people are working at cross-purposes or interfering with each other's work. It highlights a lack of coordination where one person's actions are countered or complicated by another's unnecessary involvement, leading to inefficiency or failure.

Looking at one person makes you want to give, looking at another makes you want to hit.

This expression describes how human behavior and generosity are often reactive to a person's character or attitude. It implies that some people naturally evoke kindness and charity, while others, due to their behavior or nature, provoke irritation or anger.

After eating everything that came for free, saying 'I also have a brother'.

This proverb is used to describe a person who is extremely selfish or greedy. It depicts a situation where someone enjoys a free meal or benefit entirely by themselves, and only mentions their family or others when everything is finished or when there is nothing left to share. It highlights hypocrisy and lack of genuine concern for others.

While one person is crying because his beard is on fire, another is chasing him asking for a light for his cigar.

This proverb describes a situation where someone is incredibly insensitive or selfish, focusing on their own trivial needs while another person is facing a serious crisis or suffering. It is used to criticize people who lack empathy or timing.

Seeing one person makes you want to give, seeing another makes you want to hit

This proverb describes how different people's behavior or character evokes different reactions. One person's kindness or need inspires generosity, while another person's arrogance or annoyance provokes irritation and the urge to scold or strike them.