తన్ని తల్లే గుంజుకుపోతే, చెప్పుతో కొట్టి చిప్ప తెచ్చుకోవాలి

tanni talle gunjukupote, chepputo kotti chippa techchukovali

Translation

If one's own mother kicks and snatches it away, one must hit her with a slipper to get the bowl back.

Meaning

This proverb is used to describe a situation of extreme desperation or a total breakdown of relationships and ethics. It implies that when your own protectors or family members turn against you and take away your means of survival, you have no choice but to resort to extreme, even disrespectful, measures to reclaim what is rightfully yours or to survive.

Related Phrases

Help in times of danger, share in times of wealth.

This proverb emphasizes the reciprocal nature of relationships and fairness. It means that if you want a share in someone's prosperity or inheritance (property), you must also be willing to stand by them and provide support when they are in trouble or facing a crisis.

When asked 'Thimma, go get a begging bowl', he replied 'Oh mother, please don't say it like that'.

This proverb is used to describe a person who is extremely lazy or over-sensitive to the point of being impractical. Even when faced with the dire necessity of begging for survival, the person cares more about the bluntness of the wording than the reality of their situation. It mocks people who are overly fastidious or choosy when they are actually in a desperate state.

To get wind, one must put their slippers in a cart.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone performs a task in a counter-productive or illogical way. It signifies that the effort being put in will not yield the desired result because the method is fundamentally flawed, much like thinking that putting slippers in a cart will somehow generate a breeze.

If an elder is not present, they say to at least bring a Gotti head.

This proverb emphasizes the absolute necessity of having an elder or a wise person present during important events, discussions, or ceremonies to provide guidance and maintain order. 'Gotti' refers to a prickly shrub (Ziziphus xylopyrus), implying that even if a real elder isn't available, one should find a substitute or a symbol of authority to ensure things proceed correctly.

One should marry leaving the relation of a sister and avoiding the relation of a mother.

This is a traditional Telugu proverb used to explain marriage alliances and exogamy. It signifies that one can marry a girl who doesn't fall into the category of a 'sister' (like a paternal uncle's daughter or maternal aunt's daughter) or 'mother' (certain maternal clan relations) according to cultural lineage rules. It emphasizes following social and biological protocols in matrimonial matches.

If you can't get a head for the family get a sheep's head.

This proverb emphasizes the necessity of having someone in charge, even if they aren't the most qualified. It suggests that a group or organization cannot function without a head or leader (pedda tala), and in the absence of a wise elder, even a mediocre or symbolic leader is better than having no leadership at all to maintain order.

Better than nothing. When you can't get bread, oat cakes are not amiss. ( Spanish. )*

Cutting a tree and letting it fall on one's self. Bringing trouble on one's own head. The fool hunts for misfortune. (French.)

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone's own actions or attempts to solve a problem backfire, causing them self-inflicted harm or trouble. It is similar to the English idiom 'to dig one's own grave' or 'to shoot oneself in the foot'.

* Plega l'albero quando à giovane. † Gammel Green bryder nær den skal boles. Le fou cherche son malheur.

If you want to start a quarrel, they say give a loan.

This expression suggests that lending money is a sure way to ruin a relationship and create conflict. It is used to caution people that when you lend money to friends or relatives, it often leads to arguments, bitterness, and the eventual loss of both the money and the friendship.

If a heavy grinding stone is blown away by the wind, do we even need to mention the fate of a leaf plate?

This proverb is used to describe a situation where even the strongest or most stable things are failing or being destroyed, making the plight of smaller or weaker things obvious and inevitable. It highlights that if a powerful entity cannot withstand a calamity, a weak entity has no chance at all.

I told the crowd, but did I tell myself?

This expression is used to describe a person who gives advice to everyone else but fails to follow that same advice in their own life. It highlights hypocrisy or the gap between preaching and practicing, similar to the English idiom 'Practice what you preach.'