వాసం పారు తప్పరాదు చుట్టరికం కులంతప్పరాదు

vasam paru tapparadu chuttarikam kulantapparadu

Translation

The rafter must not miss the ridge, and a kinship must not miss the caste.

Meaning

This is a traditional proverb emphasizing social conformity and the importance of adhering to structural or communal norms. It suggests that just as a building's rafter (vaasam) must align perfectly with the main beam (paaru) to remain stable, marriages and social relations should stay within traditional boundaries to maintain social order.

Related Phrases

Even if a cartload of wealth is given, a relationship without a brother-in-law is useless.

This expression highlights the cultural importance of the 'Bavamardi' (brother-in-law) in Telugu families. It suggests that material wealth cannot replace the joy, companionship, and dynamic social support provided by certain close familial bonds, particularly the playful and supportive relationship shared with a brother-in-law.

The widow neither dies nor does her menstrual cycle stop.

This proverb is used to describe a persistent, annoying problem or a person who remains a constant nuisance without any resolution. It refers to a situation that is stuck in a stagnant, unpleasant state where there is neither an end to the trouble nor any relief from the daily difficulties associated with it.

Dietary discipline should not be spoiled, truth should not be forsaken.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of discipline and integrity in one's life. It suggests that just as maintaining a strict diet is essential for physical health, adhering to the truth is essential for moral health. It is used to advise someone to remain committed to their principles and health habits regardless of temptations.

Dietary discipline should not be spoiled, truth should not be failed.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of discipline in health and integrity in character. It suggests that just as one must strictly follow a prescribed diet (Pathyam) for physical recovery, one must strictly adhere to the truth for moral well-being. Both are essential for a healthy life.

Even if the word is missed, the rhyme should not be missed.

This expression is used to describe someone who prioritizes style, rhythm, or external appearances over the actual substance or truth of a matter. It often refers to people who focus more on making their speech sound catchy or poetic rather than ensuring it is accurate or meaningful.

Having promised, you should not fail; having spoken, you should not lie (retract).

This proverb emphasizes the importance of integrity, honesty, and keeping one's word. It suggests that once you have made a promise (ఆడి) or made a statement (పలికి), you must stand by it and not deviate or lie about it later. It is used to describe a person of high moral character who honors their commitments.

Even if the word is missed, the rhyme must not be missed.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone prioritizes style, rhythm, or external appearance over the actual content or truth. In a literal sense, it refers to poetry where maintaining the rhyme (prasa) is seen as more important than the choice of words. In a general context, it refers to people who focus on sticking to a pattern or keeping up appearances even when the substance is lost.

Whether you have wealth or your sandals are torn, kinship cannot be avoided.

This proverb highlights that family relationships and kinship obligations remain constant regardless of one's financial status. Whether a person is wealthy (symbolized by having possessions) or poor (symbolized by torn footwear), they must still maintain their social and familial ties.

Like kinship and a formal ceremony coming together.

This expression is used to describe a situation where two beneficial or relevant events happen simultaneously or overlap perfectly. It refers to a scenario where one trip or action serves two purposes—visiting a relative (kinship) and attending a social/religious gathering (perantam) at the same time, thereby saving effort and making the most of the occasion.

Do not fail after playing (committing), do not lie after speaking.

This expression emphasizes the importance of integrity and keeping one's word. It suggests that once a promise is made or a statement is uttered, one must stand by it and never retreat from their commitment or resort to lies.