అడిగితేనే కానీ అమ్మయినా పెట్టదన్నట్లు

adigitene kani ammayina pettadannatlu

Translation

Even a mother won't feed her child unless asked.

Meaning

This proverb is used to emphasize that one must express their needs or ask for help to receive it, as others might not intuitively know what is required. It suggests that even the most caring person (like a mother) requires a prompt or request before taking action.

Related Phrases

Once the girl arrives, everything will settle down.

This proverb suggests that after getting married (when the daughter-in-law enters the house), a man's recklessness or wandering nature will naturally decrease as he takes on responsibilities. It is often used when parents discuss marriage as a solution for a son's irresponsible behavior.

Without being asked even a mother will not give.

Without asking, help wouldn’t be forthcoming, even from well-wishers.

The foppish husband gives himself great airs, while his wife is living by pounding rice in Dammayapâlem.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where one person maintains an air of false prestige or luxury (the father), while their family members are struggling with hard labor just to survive (the mother). It highlights hypocrisy, misplaced priorities, or vanity in the face of poverty.

A disciple asked, 'How much is jaggery for one? How much is salt for one?'

This expression is used to mock someone who lacks common sense or basic understanding of units and quantities. Jaggery and salt are measured by weight or volume, not by 'one' (a single unit). It highlights foolishness or the habit of asking nonsensical questions without thinking about the context or measurement.

" Well, swollen-bodied Reddi! how do you sell your paddy ?" " The want of it alone has made my whole body swell," he replied. The Hindus believe that longing for any desired object causes the legs and face to swell.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone is suffering from extreme poverty or starvation. In the story, the swelling is due to malnutrition (dropsy), but the onlooker mistakenly thinks the man is wealthy and asking about market rates. It highlights a tragic irony where a person's visible distress is misinterpreted as a sign of prosperity or involvement in trade.

Like asking someone, 'When did you stop beating your wife?'

This refers to a 'loaded question' or a 'complex question' fallacy. It describes a situation where any answer given (Yes or No) would imply guilt or confirm a negative presupposition that may not be true. It is used when someone frames a question in a way that traps the other person into admitting something they didn't do.

Even a mother will not serve (food) unless asked.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of communication and self-advocacy. It suggests that even the most caring person might not fulfill your needs if you don't express them, implying that one must speak up or ask for what they want to achieve their goals.

Even a mother will not serve (food) unless asked.

This proverb is used to emphasize that one must voice their needs or desires to get help, even from those who care most about them. It highlights the importance of communication and taking initiative rather than expecting others to automatically understand one's requirements.

He gave sandals without even being asked; the other thought he would give a horse if asked!

This expression is used to describe a person's unrealistic or naive expectations. It refers to someone who mistakes a small, unsolicited gesture of kindness for a sign of immense wealth or generosity, leading them to expect something far more valuable than the giver is actually willing or able to provide.

Even if the leg bends, even Goddess Gangamma wouldn't hold it.

This expression is used to describe an extremely stingy or miserly person. It suggests that even in a situation where they are forced to bow or humble themselves (like bending a leg), they are so tight-fisted that even a deity associated with cleansing and mercy wouldn't be able to get anything out of them, or they wouldn't offer anything even in extreme circumstances.