అమ్మ తానూ పెట్టదు, అడుక్కు తిననివ్వదు

amma tanu pettadu, adukku tinanivvadu

Translation

The mother neither gives food herself [to her child,] nor allows it to beg.

Meaning

This proverb describes a dog-in-the-manger situation or a person who acts as a hindrance. It is used to describe someone who refuses to help you themselves, but also prevents you from seeking help or finding alternatives elsewhere, effectively leaving you helpless.

Related Phrases

Like buying and bringing a funeral ceremony upon oneself.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone unnecessarily invites trouble or a burdensome task through their own actions. It implies that a person has self-inflicted a headache or problem that could have been easily avoided.

Mother doesn't serve food, nor does she let one beg for it.

This expression describes a dog-in-the-manger situation where someone neither helps you themselves nor allows you to seek help or opportunities from other sources. It is used to criticize people who obstruct others' progress while providing no support of their own.

High demand doesn't let you buy, low demand doesn't let you sell.

This proverb describes a common market dilemma or a stalemate situation in business. When there is high demand (Giraki), prices are too high or stocks are unavailable, making it difficult to buy. Conversely, when the market is dull or slow (Mandam), there are no buyers, making it difficult to sell. It is used to express the frustrations of unfavorable market conditions or the difficulty of finding the right timing for a transaction.

He will neither allow me to die nor to live. Perpetual worrying.

This expression is used to describe a person or a situation that is extremely suffocating or troublesome. It refers to someone who keeps others in a state of perpetual misery or limbo, where they are neither allowed to move on nor allowed to live in peace.

A person who has wealth but does not know how to enjoy it is like a basket lid.

This expression is used to describe a miser or someone who possesses plenty of resources but lives poorly or refuses to spend them on their own comfort. It compares such a person to a 'Gampakammu' (a basket frame or lid), which holds and protects the food but can never taste or consume it itself.

He won't allow the snake to die, and he won't allow the stick to be broken.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where one seeks a diplomatic or clever solution to a problem that resolves the issue without causing loss, damage, or hurting any parties involved. It refers to maintaining a delicate balance or handling a conflict so skillfully that the task is accomplished without any negative consequences.

Applied to a trimmer.

Cheapness doesn't let you buy; dearness doesn't let you sell.

This proverb describes the irony of human indecisiveness in the market. When prices are very low (cheap), people suspect the quality and hesitate to buy. Conversely, when prices are high (dear), people hesitate to sell because they hope for even higher prices or fear they won't be able to replace the item. It is used to describe a state of perpetual hesitation or missed opportunities.

He won't provide food, he won't provide clothes, but he says he loves me to death.

This expression is used to describe people who offer empty words of affection or grand promises without providing any actual help or fulfilling basic responsibilities. It highlights the hypocrisy of someone claiming to care deeply while neglecting the person's fundamental needs.

A man who sets fire to the whole heap and begins to eat parched grain. The work of a fool.

This expression describes a person who causes a massive loss to someone else or to society for a very small, trivial personal gain. It highlights extreme selfishness and a lack of proportion.

He neither lets one die nor lets one live.

This expression is used to describe a person or a situation that is extremely suffocating or harassing. It refers to someone who keeps others in a state of constant misery, preventing them from progressing or finding peace, yet not letting them completely abandon the situation.