బావా బావా అంటే పక్కలోకి రమ్మన్నాడట

bava bava ante pakkaloki rammannadata

Translation

When addressed affectionately as brother-in-law, he invited her to bed.

Meaning

This proverb describes a situation where someone takes undue advantage of friendliness or intimacy. It is used when a person mistakes a polite or affectionate gesture for a weakness and responds with an inappropriate or overstepping demand. It highlights the behavior of individuals who lack boundaries and exploit a relationship's closeness.

Related Phrases

Call me brother-in-law any where but at the Brinjal garden. Unwillingness to acknowledge relationship when it would cost anything.

This proverb highlights the importance of context and boundaries. While a relationship might be informal and friendly (calling someone 'Bava'), using that intimacy in a place where it could lead to suspicion or theft (like a garden where one might steal produce) is unwise. It warns that certain behaviors, though generally acceptable, are inappropriate in specific sensitive situations.

When she called him 'Showy Brother-in-law', he replied, 'I have no money, Sister-in-law'

This proverb is used to mock someone who puts on a grand act or maintains a high social status for show, but in reality, lacks the financial means to support it. It highlights the gap between outward pretension and inner poverty.

Sister's grudge and brother-in-law's kindness.

This proverb describes a situation where one person (like an elder sister) holds a grudge or is stern, while another closely related person (like the brother-in-law) is kind and accommodating. It is used to illustrate contrasting behaviors within a family or a team, often implying that the kindness of one might be a facade or ineffective due to the hostility of the other.

When someone tired and exhausted came to sleep beside their sister, she picked them up and put them beside the brother-in-law.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone seeks comfort, relief, or help from a trusted person, but instead of finding rest, they are pushed into a more difficult, uncomfortable, or awkward situation. It highlights the irony of getting additional trouble instead of the expected solace.

When she looked at him as a brother-in-law, he grabbed her saree hem saying 'wont you come?'.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone mistakes another person's kindness or respect for weakness and tries to take undue advantage of them. It highlights the behavior of people who respond to decency with disrespect or inappropriate advances.

When asked 'Wife, do you have any work or chores?', she replied 'Let's go to sleep'.

This proverb is used to describe someone who is extremely lazy or avoids responsibilities. It highlights a situation where, when prompted to be productive or do some work, a person suggests resting or sleeping instead of contributing.

She entered her brother-in-law's bed just because a lizard chirped.

This proverb is used to describe people who use silly superstitions or trivial excuses as a justification to do something they already intended or desired to do. It mocks those who pretend that an omen forced their hand when they were actually looking for any small reason to act on their hidden motives.

Call me brother-in-law anywhere, but do not call me brother-in-law in the brinjal garden

This proverb highlights hypocrisy or situational convenience. It refers to someone who wants to maintain a relationship or friendship in public but refuses to acknowledge it when there is work to be done or when their personal interests (like guarding a harvest) are at stake. It is used to describe people who are friendly only when it doesn't cost them anything.

When someone says there is no salt for the gruel, it is like asking them to bring sugar for the milk.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone makes an even more expensive or demanding request when they are already informed that basic necessities cannot be met. It highlights the lack of common sense or the audacity of asking for luxuries when the bare minimum is unavailable.

The sister's anxiety is in vain; the brother-in-law will not survive.

This proverb describes a situation where despite someone's intense efforts, concern, or desire to save something, the outcome is already inevitable or the situation is beyond repair. It is used to point out that some efforts are futile because the core problem is terminal or unfixable.