చెడి స్నేహితునింటికి పోవచ్చునుగాని, చుట్టాలింటికి పోరాదు.
chedi snehitunintiki povachchunugani, chuttalintiki poradu.
One can go to a friend's house when ruined, but not to a relative's house.
This proverb highlights a social observation that when a person loses their wealth or status, friends are often more supportive and less judgmental than relatives. Relatives might look down upon your misfortune or see you as a burden, whereas a true friend is more likely to offer genuine empathy and help without damaging your self-respect.
Related Phrases
కాలితో నడిస్తే కాశీకి పోవచ్చునుగాని, తలతో నడిస్తే తనవాకిలి దాటవచ్చునా?
kalito nadiste kashiki povachchunugani, talato nadiste tanavakili datavachchuna?
If you walk with your feet, you can reach Kashi; but if you walk with your head, can you even cross your own doorstep?
This proverb emphasizes that success is achieved by following the natural, right, and established methods rather than trying to do things in an unnatural or egoistic way. 'Walking with the head' symbolizes arrogance or trying to act contrary to common sense, which leads to failure even in small tasks, whereas humble and proper efforts can take one great distances.
చెడి స్నేహితుని యింటికి వెళ్లవచ్చునుగాని, చెల్లెలి యింటికి వెళ్ల కూడదు.
chedi snehituni yintiki vellavachchunugani, chelleli yintiki vella kudadu.
When you are ruined, you may go to your friend's house, but not to your sister's. Friends are better in adversity than relations who envied you in prosperity. Friends are the nearest relations. Relationship gives rise to envy. (Latin.)
This proverb reflects a traditional social sentiment regarding self-respect and family dynamics. It suggests that when a person loses their wealth or status (ruined), they might find refuge with a friend who views them as an equal, whereas going to a sister's (or relative's) house might lead to humiliation, a sense of burdening them, or being looked down upon by the in-laws.
ఇంటింటికీ మట్టి పొయ్యే
intintiki matti poyye
Every house has an earthen fire-place.
This proverb means that certain problems, weaknesses, or secrets are universal and exist in every household or for every person, regardless of how they appear on the outside. It is used to convey that one is not alone in their struggles and that human nature or domestic issues are the same everywhere.
Every man has his faults.
స్నేహితుడికి అప్పు ఇస్తే రెండూ పోతాయి
snehitudiki appu iste rendu potayi
If you give a loan to a friend, both will be lost
This expression warns that lending money to a friend often leads to the loss of both the money and the friendship. It is used to suggest that financial transactions can ruin personal relationships if the borrower is unable or unwilling to repay.
మాటకు మా ఇంటికి, కూటికి మీ ఇంటికి
mataku ma intiki, kutiki mi intiki
For conversation at our house, for a meal at your house.
This proverb is used to describe someone who is very friendly and talkative but avoids being hospitable or sharing food. It refers to a person who is happy to host a conversation but expects others to provide the meal or resources. It highlights a one-sided relationship or stinginess disguised as friendliness.
కంటికి కలక వంటికి పోటు
kantiki kalaka vantiki potu
Infection to the eye, pain to the body
This expression is used to describe a situation that is extremely annoying, constant, and difficult to ignore. Just as an eye infection causes persistent discomfort and a body ache makes one restless, this phrase refers to a person or a problem that causes continuous irritation or trouble.
చెడిపోయి స్నేహితుడింటికి వెళ్ళొచ్చు గాని చెల్లెలింటికి వెళ్ళకూడదు.
chedipoyi snehitudintiki vellochchu gani chellelintiki vellakudadu.
One can go to a friend's house when ruined, but never to a sister's house.
This traditional proverb highlights the social complexities and ego associated with family dynamics. It suggests that while a friend might help you without judgment during financial ruin or failure, going to a sister's house (where she is a daughter-in-law) might cause her humiliation or lead to a loss of respect for your family in her marital home. It is used to emphasize maintaining dignity within family relations even during hard times.
ఇంటి కూటికి, దోవ కూటికి రెంటికీ చెడినట్లు
inti kutiki, dova kutiki rentiki chedinatlu
Like losing both the meal at home and the meal for the journey.
This expression is used to describe a situation where someone tries to gain from two different options but ends up losing both due to indecision, poor planning, or greed. It is similar to the English idiom 'falling between two stools.'
అలిగి అత్తవారింటికి, చెడి చెల్లెలింటికి పోరాదు.
aligi attavarintiki, chedi chellelintiki poradu.
Do not go to your in-laws' house out of anger, and do not go to your sister's house when you are ruined.
This proverb advises maintaining self-respect and social dignity. Going to an in-law's house while angry (after a fight at home) diminishes one's respect there, and going to a sister's house after losing one's wealth or status can become a burden and strain relationships. It emphasizes that one should avoid seeking refuge in places where their presence might lead to humiliation or awkwardness during times of vulnerability.
బ్రతికి బావగారినీ, చెడి స్నేహితుని చేరాలి
bratiki bavagarini, chedi snehituni cherali
When living well, go to your brother-in-law; when fallen on hard times, go to a friend.
This proverb highlights social dynamics and true loyalty. It suggests that relatives (like a brother-in-law) are often more interested in your company when you are prosperous and can enhance their status, whereas a true friend is the one who will support and welcome you even when you have lost everything and are in distress.