చెయ్యి చూపి అవలక్షణము అనిపించుకొన్నట్టు.

cheyyi chupi avalakshanamu anipinchukonnattu.

Translation

Pointing with the hand, and being called a luckless fellow. Indiscreetly accusing a person openly of something which you are not able to prove. A fool's tongue is long enough to cut his own throat. Hear, see, and say nothing, if you wish to live in peace. (Italian.)

Meaning

This proverb describes a situation where someone unnecessarily invites trouble or criticism by interfering in something or volunteering information. It is used when a person's own actions lead to a negative reputation or a bad outcome that could have been avoided by staying quiet or staying out of the way.

Related Phrases

Loss at the very beginning and showing an empty hand.

This expression is used when a plan fails right at the start, leading to a total loss. 'Mondi cheyyi chupinchadam' specifically means to cheat, refuse to help, or leave someone empty-handed after promising something.

Like stretching out a hand and being called ill-mannered.

This expression describes a situation where someone who asks for help or a favor ends up being insulted, criticized, or gaining a bad reputation instead of receiving assistance. It is used when a person's vulnerability or request for aid backfires, leading to loss of dignity.

O mother-in-law, should you accuse me and bring a reproach on yourself in return ?

This expression is used sarcastically or ironically when someone tries to cover up their obvious mistakes or bad behavior by pretending to be concerned about their reputation. It originates from a folk story where a daughter-in-law behaves poorly and then asks if she deserves the bad name she is getting, highlighting hypocrisy.

Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones.

Burning his hand when he had a ladle. To stir the rice with.

This proverb describes a situation where someone suffers or makes a mistake despite having the necessary tools or resources to avoid it. It is used to point out foolishness or the failure to utilize available help, similar to the English concept of 'making things harder for oneself'.

Like making someone say, 'Where is Venkataswamy?'

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone performs a task so poorly or fails so miserably that people start questioning their very presence or competence. It implies a total failure that leads to a loss of reputation, where instead of praise, the person's absence is preferred or their existence is mocked.

Employment makes the man ; he is a luckless fellow if he lose it.

While the original proverb 'Udyogam Purusha Lakshanam' emphasizes that work/effort defines a person's character and dignity, this extended humorous or sarcastic version suggests that losing one's job or being unemployed is seen as a flaw or a social stigma. It is often used to highlight the societal pressure regarding employment and financial stability.

Like pointing a finger and getting labeled as having bad traits.

This proverb describes a situation where someone tries to point out a minor flaw in others but ends up attracting negative attention or criticism towards themselves. It is used when someone's unnecessary interference or criticism backfires, making them look bad instead of the person they were targeting.

If Lakshanam is neglected it becomes Avalakshanam.

This expression means that a small flaw or a lapse in character can turn a virtue into a vice. It is used to caution people that maintaining one's good reputation or quality requires consistency, as even a minor deviation can lead to being perceived negatively.

There is a pun here on the word Lakshanam which as a noun signifies the ' rules of classic composition,' and as an adjective ' handsome.'—Ava- lakshanam means ' ugly,' ' deformed.'

Like showing one's palm and being told it has bad traits.

This expression describes a situation where someone voluntarily invites criticism or trouble by exposing their own flaws or actions to others. It is used when a person's own initiative leads to an unfavorable judgment or a negative outcome that could have been avoided by remaining silent or private.

Pointing the finger and coming off worst.

This expression describes a situation where someone's attempt to help or point something out results in them being wrongly blamed or criticized. It is used when an innocent action leads to an unnecessary negative reputation or misunderstanding.

Said of a man who accuses another without being able to sub- stantiate his allegations.