చెయ్యి చాపి అవలక్షణమనిపించుకున్నట్లు

cheyyi chapi avalakshanamanipinchukunnatlu

Translation

Like stretching out a hand and being called ill-mannered.

Meaning

This expression describes a situation where someone who asks for help or a favor ends up being insulted, criticized, or gaining a bad reputation instead of receiving assistance. It is used when a person's vulnerability or request for aid backfires, leading to loss of dignity.

Related Phrases

Pointing with the hand, and being called a luckless fellow. Indiscreetly accusing a person openly of something which you are not able to prove. A fool's tongue is long enough to cut his own throat. Hear, see, and say nothing, if you wish to live in peace. (Italian.)

This proverb describes a situation where someone unnecessarily invites trouble or criticism by interfering in something or volunteering information. It is used when a person's own actions lead to a negative reputation or a bad outcome that could have been avoided by staying quiet or staying out of the way.

When sacred grain was given to a luckless fellow, he went away and ate it up (instead of placing it on his head). The term Avalakshana is applied to a man who bears unlucky marks on his person, or whose manners are inauspicious.

This proverb is used to describe a person who lacks basic sense, culture, or awareness of traditions. Akshatalu (sacred rice) are meant to be showered on the head for blessings, not eaten. It highlights how a foolish or ill-mannered person ruins a solemn or sacred gesture by acting out of ignorance or greed.

Like crying and getting a death anniversary performed.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone performs a task or fulfills an obligation with great reluctance, lack of interest, or while complaining, rather than doing it willingly or happily. It implies that the person is doing something just for the sake of finishing it, often ruining the spirit of the activity.

Burning his hand when he had a ladle. To stir the rice with.

This proverb describes a situation where someone suffers or makes a mistake despite having the necessary tools or resources to avoid it. It is used to point out foolishness or the failure to utilize available help, similar to the English concept of 'making things harder for oneself'.

Every single trait of the teacher's horse is a bad omen.

This expression is used to describe a person or a situation where everything is flawed or full of defects. It originated from a story where a poor teacher's horse had no redeeming qualities, and it is now applied to people who possess only negative characteristics or projects that are doomed due to multiple failures.

Employment makes the man ; he is a luckless fellow if he lose it.

While the original proverb 'Udyogam Purusha Lakshanam' emphasizes that work/effort defines a person's character and dignity, this extended humorous or sarcastic version suggests that losing one's job or being unemployed is seen as a flaw or a social stigma. It is often used to highlight the societal pressure regarding employment and financial stability.

Like pointing a finger and getting labeled as having bad traits.

This proverb describes a situation where someone tries to point out a minor flaw in others but ends up attracting negative attention or criticism towards themselves. It is used when someone's unnecessary interference or criticism backfires, making them look bad instead of the person they were targeting.

If Lakshanam is neglected it becomes Avalakshanam.

This expression means that a small flaw or a lapse in character can turn a virtue into a vice. It is used to caution people that maintaining one's good reputation or quality requires consistency, as even a minor deviation can lead to being perceived negatively.

There is a pun here on the word Lakshanam which as a noun signifies the ' rules of classic composition,' and as an adjective ' handsome.'—Ava- lakshanam means ' ugly,' ' deformed.'

Like the one who gave birth and raised (the child) slipping their foot.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone who is highly experienced, responsible, or the very creator/protector of something makes a fundamental or unexpected mistake. It highlights the irony and disappointment when a person who is supposed to know better or be most careful ends up failing or committing an error.

Like showing one's palm and being told it has bad traits.

This expression describes a situation where someone voluntarily invites criticism or trouble by exposing their own flaws or actions to others. It is used when a person's own initiative leads to an unfavorable judgment or a negative outcome that could have been avoided by remaining silent or private.