ఎత్తుబారపు పెండ్లికి ఏకాలు పెట్టినా ఒకటే.

ettubarapu pendliki ekalu pettina okate.

Translation

For a wedding that is bound to fail, it is all the same even if you offer a helping hand.

Meaning

This proverb is used to describe a situation or task that is fundamentally flawed or destined for failure from the start. In such cases, no matter how much effort, support, or 'legs' (assistance) you provide, the outcome will remain the same. It suggests that some things are beyond saving despite intervention.

Related Phrases

A goat's pellet is the same wherever it is.

This expression is used to describe something that is insignificant, useless, or of such low value that its location or presence makes no difference. It is often applied to people or objects that have no impact on a situation regardless of where they are placed.

For a household that has already been uprooted, it doesn't matter which foot you step forward with.

This proverb is used to describe a situation that is already ruined or in complete disarray. It suggests that when someone has already lost everything or is in a desperate state, minor decisions or further misfortunes do not make a significant difference. It is often said when someone is indifferent to further risks because they have already faced the worst.

A husband following an ascetic's religion and a wife who is too heavy to lift.

This proverb describes a highly incompatible or mismatched pair. It refers to a situation where one person's lifestyle or beliefs (like a husband wanting to live like an ascetic/monk) are completely at odds with their responsibilities or the nature of their partner (a wife who requires physical support or attention), leading to constant struggle and lack of harmony.

At God's wedding, everyone is an elder/leader.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where there is no clear authority, hierarchy, or organization because everyone involved considers themselves to be in charge. It is often applied to chaotic events where everyone is giving orders but no one is following them.

An over-eager groom followed the wedding guests.

This proverb is used to describe a person who is so impatient or overly excited to achieve a goal that they act foolishly or lose their sense of dignity. It satirizes someone who lacks self-control and behaves inappropriately due to their over-enthusiasm.

Whether a blind eye is closed or open, it is all the same.

This expression is used to describe a person or a thing that is completely useless or ineffective. It suggests that the presence or absence of certain actions/tools doesn't matter when the core functionality is missing. It is often used to refer to someone who is indifferent to what is happening around them or an effort that yields no result regardless of the approach.

For a stubborn husband, a rebellious wife.

This proverb describes a couple where both partners are difficult or non-cooperative in their own ways. If the husband is argumentative or perverse in his behavior, the wife matches him by being unyielding or burdensome. It is used to describe a pair that is perfectly matched in their negative traits or lack of harmony.

Giving to an old woman and giving to a childless widow is the same.

This expression is used to describe an investment or a favor that yields no return or future benefit. In a traditional social context, it implies that providing for those who cannot reproduce or contribute back to the lineage is a dead-end expenditure.

For a very short husband, a very tall wife.

This proverb describes a mismatch or an ill-suited pairing. It is used to point out situations where two entities, people, or things are completely incompatible or disproportionate to each other, making the combination look awkward or impractical.

Lifting the burden and then beating one's chest in grief.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone voluntarily takes on a responsibility or burden and then complains or laments about the difficulty and stress it causes. It highlights the irony of self-inflicted hardship.