ఇష్టంలేని మొగుణ్ణి జూసి, కొనవేళ్ళతో మొత్తుకున్నట్లు

ishtamleni mogunni jusi, konavellato mottukunnatlu

Translation

Like a woman who dislikes her husband and strikes her own head with her fingertips when she sees him.

Meaning

This proverb describes a situation where someone performs an action half-heartedly or with extreme reluctance just for the sake of formality. In the analogy, the woman dislikes her husband so much that she won't even put effort into the customary act of expressing grief or frustration, doing it as lightly as possible.

Related Phrases

Like hitting oneself with a hand that has no fingers.

This expression is used to describe a situation where a person's efforts or protests are completely ineffective and go unnoticed. Just as a hand without fingers cannot produce a loud sound or physical impact when striking a surface, this phrase refers to someone who is so powerless or helpless that their complaints or struggles do not result in any change or attention.

There is no loss for a soldier without self-respect and a king without a mustache.

This proverb highlights the importance of honor and dignity. Just as a mustache was traditionally seen as a symbol of authority for a king, self-respect (rosham) is essential for a soldier. If they lack these qualities, they have nothing left to lose because they have already lost their status and dignity in the eyes of society.

Beating her husband and then lodging a complaint against him.

This proverb describes a situation where the person at fault acts like the victim or takes the offensive to divert attention from their own wrongdoings. It is similar to the English expression 'The best defense is a good offense' or 'The pot calling the kettle black,' specifically used when someone commits a mistake and then loudly protests or blames others first to gain sympathy or avoid consequences.

The husband one is married to, the jewelry one is wearing.

This expression highlights the items or people that truly belong to a person and provide real security or status. It is used to emphasize that only what is legally yours or physically in your possession can be relied upon in times of need or social standing.

If you don't like your wife, calling her 'Ose' is a mistake, and calling her 'Amma' is also a mistake.

This proverb describes a situation where someone is determined to find fault regardless of the actions taken. When a person is prejudiced or dislikes someone, even respectful or neutral behavior will be misinterpreted or criticized. It is used to highlight unfair bias and the impossibility of pleasing someone who has already made up their mind to be unhappy with you.

A child in arms won't stop crying even if you hit it.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where one is forced to endure a burden or responsibility they have voluntarily taken up. Once you have committed to helping someone or taking on a task (lifting the child), you must bear the consequences and difficulties (the crying/trouble) that come with it until the end.

The mortar went and complained to the drum.

This proverb is used when someone who is suffering a lot goes to complain to someone who is suffering even more. It highlights the irony of seeking sympathy from someone in a worse situation, as the mortar is struck on one side while the drum is beaten on both sides.

Like a mortar going to a drum to complain about its woes.

This proverb is used when someone seeks help from a person who is in an even worse situation or who suffers more than themselves. In a traditional setting, a mortar (rolu) is hit with a pestle occasionally, but a drum (maddela) is beaten on both sides constantly. It signifies the irony of complaining to someone who has greater troubles.

One can buy bundles with words.

This expression refers to someone who is highly persuasive or a smooth talker. It describes a person who can achieve great things or acquire assets just by using their convincing speech and eloquence, without necessarily having the physical means or money at that moment.

When she looked at her husband with the eye which had beheld the king, she had a mind to thump him.

This proverb describes a situation where a person, after witnessing someone of great power, beauty, or wealth, starts to find their own humble circumstances or partner inferior. It is used to caution against comparing one's own blessings with extraordinary exceptions, which leads to unnecessary discontentment or disdain for what one already has.