కుట్టిన తేలు గుణవంతురాలు, కూసినమ్మ కుక్కముండ
kuttina telu gunavanturalu, kusinamma kukkamunda
The scorpion that stung is considered virtuous, while the woman who cried out is called a dog.
This proverb describes a situation where a victim who complains or reacts to an injury is blamed or vilified, while the person who actually caused the harm remains silent and is perceived as well-behaved. It is used to highlight unfair social judgment where silence is mistaken for goodness and expressing pain is seen as a lack of character.
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దొంగకు తేలు కుట్టినట్లు
dongaku telu kuttinatlu
Like a thief, stung by a scorpion.
This refers to some criminal who cannot even complain. If a person is doing something criminal, he cannot complain against a natural problem/discomfort he has to face. The moral is that it is better not to commit blunders one may find it difficult to get out of them.
అత్తలేని కోడలు ఉత్తమురాలు, కోడలు లేని అత్త గుణవంతురాలు
attaleni kodalu uttamuralu, kodalu leni atta gunavanturalu
A daughter-in-law without a mother-in-law is the best, and a mother-in-law without a daughter-in-law is of great character.
This proverb is used sarcastically to highlight the typical friction in the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. It suggests that people appear virtuous or easy-going only when there is no one around to challenge them or create conflict. It implies that their 'goodness' is untested rather than inherent.
కుక్క ముట్టిన కుండ అక్కరకు వస్తుందా?
kukka muttina kunda akkaraku vastunda?
Will a pot touched by a dog be of any use?
This proverb is used to describe something that has become defiled, corrupted, or spoiled to the point of being useless. Just as a ritualistically pure household would discard a pot licked by a dog, this expression suggests that once a person's reputation is tarnished or a resource is compromised, it can no longer serve its original honorable purpose.
అత్తలేని కోడలు ఉత్తమురాలు, కోడలులేని అత్త గుణవంతురాలు.
attaleni kodalu uttamuralu, kodaluleni atta gunavanturalu.
Where there is no mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is per- fect; where there is no daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is good tempered. As long I was a daughter-in-law I never had a good mother-in-law, and as long as I was a mother-in-law I never had a good daughter-in-law. (Spanish.)
This proverb is a satirical take on the stereotypical conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. It suggests that they only seem perfect or virtuous when they don't have to interact or deal with each other, implying that friction is inevitable in their relationship.
* Aquella es bien casada, que no tiene suegra ni cuñada. † En cuanto fue suera, nunca tuvo buena suegra, y en cuanto fue suegra, nunca tuvo buena suera.
కుట్టినమ్మ కుదుట్లో ఉంటే, కూసినమ్మ గయ్యాళి
kuttinamma kudutlo unte, kusinamma gayyali
While the one who sewed is in the corner, the one who shouted is called a shrew.
This proverb describes a situation where the person who actually did the hard work remains quiet or unrecognized, while the person who merely made a lot of noise or complained is unfairly labeled as difficult or aggressive. It is used to point out ironies in social recognition and how vocal people are often judged differently than those who work silently.
కోతికి తేలు కుట్టినట్లు
kotiki telu kuttinatlu
Like a monkey bitten by a scorpion
This expression is used to describe a person who is naturally restless or mischievous, but becomes even more hyperactive, erratic, or uncontrollable due to a specific provocation or situation. It highlights a state of extreme agitation added to an already unstable personality.
అత్తలేని కోడలు ఉత్తమురాలు, కోడలు లేని అత్త గుణవంతురాలు
attaleni kodalu uttamuralu, kodalu leni atta gunavanturalu
A daughter-in-law without a mother-in-law is the best; a mother-in-law without a daughter-in-law is of noble character.
This proverb sarcastically points out that it is easy for people to appear perfect or virtuous when there is no one around to challenge them or reveal their flaws. It highlights that conflict often arises in relationships (specifically between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law), and the absence of the 'opposing' party is what makes a person seem flawless.
కుట్టిన తేలు గుణవంతురాలు, కూసినమ్మ కుక్క ముండ
kuttina telu gunavanturalu, kusinamma kukka munda
The scorpion which stung is a good tempered creature, the [ stung ] woman who bawled out is a wretched slut. A mischief maker often escapes blame.
This proverb describes a situation where a silent aggressor or the person who caused the harm goes unpunished or unnoticed, while the victim who cries out or complains is blamed and shamed for making noise. It is used to highlight unfair social judgment where the 'silent' troublemaker is favored over the 'loud' victim.
ఆలు గుణవంతురాలు అయితే, మేలు కలుగును
alu gunavanturalu ayite, melu kalugunu
If the wife is of good disposition, good will accrue.
This proverb emphasizes that a family's prosperity, harmony, and reputation depend largely on the character and conduct of the woman of the house. It is used to highlight the importance of a spouse's virtues in ensuring a happy and successful life.
కూటికుండ కుక్కముట్టినట్లు
kutikunda kukkamuttinatlu
Like a dog touching the pot of cooked food
This expression is used to describe a situation where something pure or useful becomes completely ruined, defiled, or unusable because of the interference of an unworthy or undesirable person. In traditional contexts, if a dog touched a cooking pot, the entire meal was considered polluted and had to be discarded.