మొగునితో పెళ్ళికి, పిల్లలతో తీర్థానికి వెళ్ళరాదు.

mogunito pelliki, pillalato tirthaniki vellaradu.

Translation

Do not go to a wedding with your husband and do not go to a fair with children.

Meaning

This is a humorous observation about practical difficulties. Taking a husband to a wedding might lead to restricted freedom or social awkwardness, while taking children to a crowded pilgrimage or fair (Teertham) is exhausting as the parent spends all their time tending to the children's needs and safety rather than enjoying the event.

Related Phrases

A Talâri's hate ends with one's head. Talâri is a village watchman.

This expression suggests that certain rivalries or grudges held by powerful or stubborn individuals will only end in total destruction or extreme consequences. It is used to describe a situation where an enemy will not stop until they have achieved complete revenge, implying that one should be cautious of making enemies with those in positions of authority or those who harbor deep-seated resentment.

One should not uproot sugarcane by its roots just because it is sweet.

This proverb advises against being overly greedy or taking undue advantage of someone's kindness or a good situation. Just as pulling a sugarcane plant out by its roots destroys the source of future sweetness, exploiting a person or resource completely will eventually leave you with nothing. It emphasizes the importance of moderation and maintaining boundaries even when something is beneficial.

One can plant with two fingers, but should not uproot even with five fingers.

This proverb emphasizes that it is very easy to start or create something (like a rumor, a conflict, or a plant), but extremely difficult to undo or destroy the consequences later. It highlights the importance of being mindful before initiating an action, as the effort required to fix a mistake is much greater than the effort it took to make it.

When told to leave, acting as if invited to a wedding

This expression describes a person who thick-skinnedly ignores a clear rejection or an order to leave, instead pretending they were invited to stay for a celebration. It is used to mock someone who is unwelcome but refuses to take the hint or is intentionally being stubborn and naive to serve their own interest.

Taking a cat along while going to a wedding.

This refers to doing something inauspicious or undesirable. It is an unwanted burden and might lead to undesirable results.

Disputing with the aged [ is as wrong as ] keeping company with ghosts.

This proverb highlights the futility and danger of two specific actions: engaging in heated arguments with wise or powerful elders (which leads to trouble) and attempting to befriend the dead (which is impossible or morbid). It is used to advise someone to respect social hierarchies and focus on the living and the practical.

Like going to a wedding while carrying water (neeyi) in one's armpit.

This expression is used to describe a person who carries unnecessary baggage or clings to something burdensome while going to an important or celebratory event. It highlights the absurdity of holding onto something that hinders one's enjoyment or ease during a significant occasion.

When invited to a wedding with proper respect and a tilak, she didn't go; but later she went with a broken pot shard to beg for some stew.

This proverb describes a person who misses out on a great, respectful opportunity due to ego or negligence, only to later settle for something far inferior or beg for scraps out of necessity. It highlights the irony of rejecting a dignified invitation and later being forced to ask for favors in a humiliating manner.

Argue with elders, fight with ancestors.

This proverb warns against the futility and disrespect of engaging in constant arguments with elders or ancestors. It suggests that such conflicts are destructive, lead to bad reputation, and result in mental unrest since elders possess more experience and ancestors represent one's roots.

A husband of two wives

This expression refers to a person caught between two conflicting parties or demands, making it impossible to satisfy both. It is often used to describe someone in a dilemma, facing constant complaints or pressure from two different sides simultaneously.