ముఖస్తుతి చేసిన వానిని చేయించుకొనిన వానిని ఇద్దరినీ చెరచును.

mukhastuti chesina vanini cheyinchukonina vanini iddarini cherachunu.

Translation

Flattery ruins both the one who gives it and the one who receives it.

Meaning

This expression warns against the dangers of insincere praise. It suggests that flattery is harmful because it makes the giver a hypocrite or a liar, and it makes the receiver arrogant or delusional, ultimately leading to the downfall of both parties.

Related Phrases

A man is no Doctor until he has killed one or two [patients.]

This proverb is used to highlight that expertise comes from experience, often involving costly mistakes or failures along the way. In a more cynical sense, it suggests that beginners in any profession may inadvertently cause harm while they are still learning their craft.

Said to a bungling tyro. If the doctor cures, the sun sees it ; if he kills, the earth hides it.

Relying on her younger sister's husband, she held her hand pompously.

This proverb is used to criticize someone who acts arrogantly, lives extravagantly, or shows false pride based on the wealth and status of a relative (specifically a brother-in-law) rather than their own capability. It implies that their confidence is misplaced and dependent on someone else.

One should not trust a person who invites you to a house that has changed (or a person whose nature has changed).

This proverb serves as a warning against trusting people who are inconsistent or who have suddenly changed their behavior or circumstances without a clear reason. It suggests that one should be cautious when someone with a dubious past or an unstable nature suddenly shows unexpected hospitality or friendliness.

Like trying to make a sacred bull but ending up making a pig.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone attempts to create or do something noble, beautiful, or perfect, but due to lack of skill or an unfortunate mistake, ends up creating something ugly, ruined, or messed up. It is often used to mock incompetence or a failed endeavor that went horribly wrong.

The one who does injustice is lower than the one who suffers it.

This proverb highlights a moral perspective on injustice. It suggests that while the victim of injustice suffers physically or materially, the perpetrator suffers a greater moral and spiritual degradation. In a societal sense, it implies that being an oppressor is ethically worse than being the oppressed.

A snake bites; a scream (or commotion) spoils.

This proverb suggests that while a snake's bite is a direct physical harm, the panic or loud screaming that follows can cause even more damage or ruin the situation. It is used to advise someone to stay calm during a crisis, as overreacting or creating a commotion can be more counterproductive than the problem itself.

Do not believe what the eye sees, and do not believe what the ear hears.

This proverb advises against jumping to conclusions based on surface-level observations or hearsay. It suggests that one should investigate and verify the truth personally before forming an opinion or making a judgment, as appearances and rumors can often be deceiving.

The pyre burns the dead, while worry burns the living.

This proverb highlights the destructive power of stress and constant worry (chinta). While a funeral pyre (chiti) only consumes a person after they have passed away, mental anxiety and grief consume a person while they are still alive, destroying their peace and health. It is used to advise someone against excessive worrying.

Those who trust their mother and the earth will never be ruined.

This proverb emphasizes the unwavering reliability and nurturing nature of one's mother and the land (earth). It suggests that respecting and depending on these two fundamental sources of life ensures a person's well-being and success, as they never betray those who believe in them.

Will one keep a servant girl in the house and abduct the mistress?

This proverb is used to criticize someone who leaves a small or easy task unfinished while attempting a much larger, more difficult, or unethical one. It highlights the absurdity of ignoring a simple solution or accessible resource while committing a major folly or risk elsewhere.