నలుగురితో చావు పెళ్ళితో సమానం

nalugurito chavu pellito samanam

Translation

Death along with many people is equivalent to a wedding.

Meaning

This proverb suggests that when a misfortune or a difficult situation is shared by a large group, it becomes easier to bear. It reflects the human psychological comfort found in solidarity during times of crisis, implying that suffering alone is a tragedy, but suffering together is a shared experience.

Related Phrases

With many people death is equal to marriage. Applied to an honorable death in a good cause.

This proverb suggests that when a misfortune or hardship is shared by many, it becomes easier to bear. Just as a wedding is a communal celebration, facing a difficult situation as a group provides collective strength and comfort, making even a 'death-like' situation feel less burdensome.

Food served without affection is equal to the food offered to the dead.

This proverb emphasizes that the hospitality and love behind a meal are more important than the food itself. Even the most delicious food is considered unpalatable or unlucky if it is served with resentment or without heart, comparing it to 'Pinda Kudu' (the ritual food offered to deceased ancestors).

Death along with ten people is equal to a wedding

This expression means that when a difficulty or disaster is shared by many, it becomes easier to bear. It suggests that collective suffering reduces individual pain or that facing a challenge as a group provides a sense of solidarity and comfort, similar to the shared joy of a wedding.

Death along with four people is equal to a wedding.

This expression suggests that shared suffering or a collective misfortune is easier to endure than individual hardship. It implies that when a problem affects everyone equally, the shared experience provides a sense of comfort or normalization, making even the worst situation (like death) feel as bearable or significant as a celebration (like a wedding).

A debt that cannot be recovered is equal to a stone.

This expression is used to describe a situation where money lent to someone is unlikely to be repaid. Just as a stone has no value in financial transactions and cannot be changed or utilized, a bad debt is considered a dead asset. It serves as a warning or a philosophical acceptance of a financial loss.

When detachment becomes extreme, even a courtesan is equal to one's mother.

This expression refers to a state of total renunciation or disillusionment with worldly desires. It implies that when a person reaches a peak level of detachment (vairagya), they no longer view others through the lens of lust or social labels, treating everyone with the same respect or neutrality as they would their own mother. It is often used to describe someone who has completely lost interest in material or carnal pleasures.

The death of ten people is equal to a wedding.

This proverb suggests that when a disaster or misfortune is shared by a large group, it becomes easier to bear than a personal tragedy. Similar to how people gather for a wedding, a collective struggle provides a sense of solidarity and reduces individual grief.

A girl born after three consecutive boys is equal to a co-sister-in-law.

This traditional Telugu proverb refers to the specific family dynamic when a girl is born after three sons. It suggests that such a child is treated with high regard, authority, or maturity within the household, similar to the status of a co-sister-in-law (Eralu) who shares responsibilities and status in the family hierarchy.

Those who do not get along are equal to those who are dead.

This expression is used to describe an extreme level of enmity or incompatibility between individuals. It suggests that when people have irreconcilable differences or a complete lack of harmony, their relationship is effectively non-existent, as if they are dead to each other. It highlights the social or emotional finality of a deep-seated grudge.

Friendship with a snake, fencing with a sword.

This expression is used to describe a friendship or association with a dangerous, unpredictable, or untrustworthy person. It implies that being close to such individuals is as hazardous as playing with a venomous snake or practicing with a sharp sword; one must always be on guard because a single mistake or a change in their mood could result in fatal consequences.