నీవు పెట్టకపోయినా పెట్టే ఇల్లు చూపించుమన్నట్టు.

nivu pettakapoyina pette illu chupinchumannattu.

Translation

Though you don't give alms, point out a house where they do.

Meaning

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone who is unable or unwilling to help should at least guide the person in need to someone who can. It emphasizes that if you cannot be a benefactor, you should at least not be an obstacle and instead provide helpful information or direction.

Related Phrases

Like ordering the well to be filled up when the rope was found too short.

This proverb describes an absurd or foolish solution where someone tries to change the core requirement or destroy the resource instead of making a small adjustment. It is used when someone suggests an impractical, destructive, or extreme 'fix' for a minor problem, rather than finding the right tool or putting in the necessary effort.

Investing in the son-in-law led to the loss of the investment intended for the son.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone prioritizes an outsider or a distant relative over their own family, only to end up losing everything. It highlights the folly of misplaced priorities and the resulting regret when a primary responsibility is neglected for a secondary one.

Like showing teats to an elephant.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone offers something insignificantly small or inadequate to someone with vast needs or great capacity. Just as an elephant requires a massive amount of food to be satisfied, showing it small teats (symbolizing a tiny portion) is useless and mocking.

Even if younger maternal aunt doesn't serve food or water, she has great love for me.

This expression is used to describe someone who talks a lot about their affection or concern for others but never actually does anything helpful. It highlights the hypocrisy of showing superficial love through words while failing to provide basic necessities or tangible support.

May you break into the house of him who has fed you ?

This proverb emphasizes the virtue of gratitude and loyalty. It suggests that it is a great sin or an act of extreme betrayal to harm or cheat someone who has helped or supported you during your time of need.

Kannam is a hole made by burglars in the wall of a house.

A woman who does not give [ alms ] will never give ; what evil has happened to the jade who does give ?

This proverb describes a person who neither does a good deed themselves nor allows others to do it. It is used to criticize dog-in-the-manger behavior where someone obstructs progress or charity despite having no intention of contributing themselves.

Said by a beggar of one from whom he generally received alms.

The birth-house for relatives is rolled up, and the birth-house for gods is scattered.

This proverb is used to describe a state of complete ruin or destitution where one is no longer able to offer hospitality to relatives or perform traditional worship. It reflects a situation where someone who was once prosperous and charitable has lost everything and can no longer fulfill their social or religious obligations.

Like a beggar who said “O charitable lady, give me food like that which you give to your husband.” An absurd request.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone is receiving a favor or charity for free, but instead of being grateful, they start making excessive demands or expecting to be treated like a person of high importance. It highlights the audacity and lack of gratitude in demanding equal status or premium treatment when one is getting something for nothing.

If given, it's a marriage; if not, it's shattered pieces.

This proverb describes a fickle or opportunistic person who is pleasant and supportive only as long as they receive favors or benefits. If their demands are met, everything is celebrated (like a wedding); if not, they turn hostile and create trouble (represented by the sound of crackers or destruction).

Pointing the finger and coming off worst.

This expression describes a situation where someone's attempt to help or point something out results in them being wrongly blamed or criticized. It is used when an innocent action leads to an unnecessary negative reputation or misunderstanding.

Said of a man who accuses another without being able to sub- stantiate his allegations.