పాతముండలందరూ పోగయి కొత్తముండ తాడు తెంపినట్టు.

patamundalandaru pogayi kottamunda tadu tempinattu.

Translation

Like the old widows assembling to break the marriage cord of a new widow. A gang of rascals conspiring to ruin a new comer, who they fear will be in their way.

Meaning

This proverb is used to describe a situation where a group of people who are already in a miserable or failed state influence a newcomer to join their ranks or suffer the same fate. It highlights how people in bad circumstances sometimes collectively ensure that others don't fare better than them, or how bad company can quickly lead someone to ruin.

Related Phrases

The pot the daughter-in-law broke was a new one; the pot the mother-in-law broke was a patched-up one.

This proverb highlights human hypocrisy and double standards in judging mistakes. It describes a situation where people exaggerate the mistakes of others (the daughter-in-law's mistake is seen as destroying something brand new) while making excuses for their own or their favorites' mistakes (the mother-in-law's broken pot is dismissed as having been old and already broken). It is used to point out unfair bias and blame-shifting.

A man who ties the fore legs together and breaks the widows' cords. Said of a crafty swindler, who having made his victim as helpless as an animal whose fore feet have been tied together proceeds to plunder. Widows wear no cords ; the expression signifies a state of helplessness.

This expression is used to describe a person who is extremely clever, mischievous, or deceitful in a destructive way. It refers to someone who can simultaneously perform a restrictive action (like hobbling an animal) and a socially disruptive or cruel action (like breaking a widow's traditional bond). In modern usage, it often characterizes a person who is capable of doing anything, often implying they are a cunning troublemaker or a 'smart aleck' who creates chaos.

Like a man with a soot-covered face and a man with oily legs coming together.

This expression refers to two equally unsuitable, messy, or incompetent people joining forces. It is used to describe a partnership where both parties have flaws or poor reputations, suggesting that their union will not produce a positive result, but rather a doubled mess.

A wretch of a mother-in-law is better than a strange slut.

This is a sarcastic or cynical proverb used to suggest that a known relative (even one who might be difficult or considered unlucky like a widow in old social contexts) is more reliable or helpful in times of need than a stranger who is merely 'noble' or 'virtuous' in name. It emphasizes that family ties, however flawed, often provide more practical support than the abstract goodness of outsiders.

A bad bush is better than the open field. Better a lean jade than an empty halter.

Like a black faced villain joining an oily legged sinner.

This expression is used to describe the union or cooperation of two equally incompetent, useless, or disreputable people. It suggests that when two people with similar flaws join forces, the outcome is likely to be unproductive or messy, as neither can help the other improve.

Burglars disguise their faces, and lepers oil their sores. Birds of a feather flock together.

Was the hammer first, or were the tongs ?

This expression is used to describe a situation of extreme confusion, circular logic, or a 'chicken and egg' dilemma. It refers to the irony that a blacksmith needs a hammer to make pincers, but needs pincers to hold the metal to make a hammer. It is often used to mock someone who is confused about the order of operations or stuck in a paradox.

Like all the old widows gathering together to snap the thread of a new widow.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where experienced people who have already suffered a misfortune or are in a bad state, influence or force a newcomer into the same miserable condition. It highlights the toxic behavior of groups who, instead of helping someone avoid their fate, actively work to ensure the new person suffers just like they did.

Everyone is a hero when it comes to beating a dead snake

This proverb is used to describe people who show false bravery by attacking someone who is already defeated or in a weak position. It highlights that it takes no courage to strike an opponent who can no longer defend themselves, mocking those who boast about such easy victories.

When the old widow babbles in her sleep, it is as if the new widow is possessed by a ghost.

This proverb describes a situation where an experienced person says something casually or out of habit, but an inexperienced or fearful person takes it too seriously and reacts with unnecessary panic. It highlights how fear and lack of experience can lead one to misinterpret a trivial situation as a major crisis.

Like the soot-faced person and the oil-legged person coming together.

This expression is used when two people with similar bad habits, flaws, or negative reputations join forces or become friends. It implies that their association will likely lead to even more trouble or messiness, similar to how soot and oil together create a persistent stain. It is often used to describe a partnership of incompetent or mischievous individuals.