పెట్టినమ్మకు ప్రాణహాని చెప్పినమ్మకు జన్మహాని.
pettinammaku pranahani cheppinammaku janmahani.
She that gives will lose her life, she that advised will lose [ the advantage of ] her birth. The story runs thus: In the city of Matipuram, dwelt a king named Nayaśāli. He had three wives named Sumédāh, Suvarchalā, and Nitimati. Sumédāh was blessed with a son; her rival wives, being barren, were less loved by the king. This caused them to be jealous of Sumédāh, and Nitimati counselled Suvarchalā to poison the son, saying that afterwards they would share the king's favor equally with their more fortunate rival. Suvarchalā consulted in the matter with her intimate friend Vichitravati, the minister's daughter: Vichitravati after some deliberation replied "She that gives will lose her life, she that advised will lose her birth" ( i. e. will be banished from the king's presence.) Suvarchalā profiting by her friend's advice and perceiving the fatal consequences which would follow the com- mission of the intended crime, desisted from her wicked purpose.
This proverb describes a difficult or lose-lose situation where doing a favor or giving advice results in trouble for the benefactor. It is used when someone's kindness or honesty is met with ungratefulness or unexpected negative consequences, suggesting that sometimes helping others can backfire on the helper.
Related Phrases
చెవ్వాకు పోయినమ్మకు ఎంత వ్యసనమో, దొరికినమ్మకు అంత సంతోషము.
chevvaku poyinammaku enta vyasanamo, dorikinammaku anta santoshamu.
The lady who found the ear-ornament was as glad as the lady who lost it was sorry.
This proverb highlights the duality of loss and gain. It describes a zero-sum situation where one person's misfortune directly results in another person's benefit or happiness. It is often used to remark on the irony of life where the same event causes grief to one and celebration to another.
Ill-luck is good for something. ( French. )* * A quelque chose malheur est bon.
వాచినమ్మకు పాసినకూడు పెట్టితే, మా అత్త పరమాన్నము పెట్టిందని ఇరుగింట పొరుగింట చెప్పినదట
vachinammaku pasinakudu pettite, ma atta paramannamu pettindani iruginta poruginta cheppinadata
When an ill-treated daughter-in-law at last got some bad food from her mother-in-law, she told the neighbours she had been sumptuously fed. Real want is not dainty.
This proverb describes a person who is so deprived or in such a desperate situation that even the smallest, lowest-quality help feels like a massive luxury. It is used to highlight extreme gratitude born out of severe necessity, or sometimes to mock someone's lack of standards due to their poverty-stricken state.
చేయలేనమ్మకు చేతినిండా పని.
cheyalenammaku chetininda pani.
For the woman who doesn't want to work, her hands are always full of work.
This proverb is used to describe people who are lazy or unwilling to work, but constantly complain about having too much to do as an excuse to avoid their responsibilities. It highlights how someone can make themselves appear busy just to escape actual productivity.
చెవ్వాకు పోయినమ్మకు దుఃఖమూ లేదు, దొరికినమ్మకు సంతోషమూ లేదు.
chevvaku poyinammaku duhkhamu ledu, dorikinammaku santoshamu ledu.
Neither the woman who lost her earring is sad, nor the woman who found it is happy.
This expression refers to an object or a situation that is of such low value or triviality that its loss doesn't affect the owner, and its discovery doesn't benefit the finder. It is used to describe things that are practically useless or insignificant to everyone involved.
అట్టు పెట్టినమ్మకు అట్టున్నర!
attu pettinammaku attunnara!
One and a half pancakes for the mother who served the pancake!
This proverb is used to describe a situation where a person who performs a service or favor for someone else ends up receiving an even larger share or better treatment than the recipient. It often highlights irony, favoritism, or the self-serving nature of the person in charge of distribution.
పలవతో సరసము ప్రాణహాని
palavato sarasamu pranahani
Flirting or joking with a wicked person is a threat to life.
This proverb serves as a warning against being overly familiar or playful with malicious or unpredictable people. Even a casual interaction or joke with a wicked individual can escalate into a dangerous situation that puts one's life at risk.
వచ్చినమ్మకు బయ్యారము, రానమ్మకు రాగాలు
vachchinammaku bayyaramu, ranammaku ragalu
For the one who arrived, a warm welcome; for the one who didn't, many complaints.
This proverb describes a common human tendency where a person who is present is treated with respect or given tasks, while those who are absent or failed to show up are criticized or spoken of with long, complaining tones (ragalu). It is used to highlight how people often grumble about those who aren't there to defend themselves or how presence dictates treatment.
అట్టు పెట్టినమ్మకు అట్టున్నర.
attu pettinammaku attunnara.
An attu-and-a-half for the mother who served an attu.
This proverb highlights the principle of reciprocity and generosity. It implies that those who give or help others will receive back even more than what they offered (interest/bonus). It is used to suggest that kindness is rewarded with greater kindness.
బొమ్మకు మొక్కినా నమ్మకం ఉండవలె
bommaku mokkina nammakam undavale
Even if you pray to a doll/statue, there must be faith.
This expression emphasizes that the power of prayer or any action lies in the sincerity and faith of the person performing it, rather than the object of worship itself. It is used to suggest that without true belief, rituals or actions are meaningless.
ఏమీ లేనిమ్మకు పంతాలు లావు, ఉన్నమ్మకు ఆశలు లావు
emi lenimmaku pantalu lavu, unnammaku ashalu lavu
The woman who has nothing has great stubbornness, while the woman who has everything has great greed.
This proverb highlights a contrast in human behavior: those with no resources or status often resort to excessive pride or stubbornness to overcompensate, whereas those who are wealthy or successful are often driven by an insatiable desire for more. It is used to describe how ego and greed manifest differently based on one's circumstances.