తప్పులు వెతికేవాడు తండ్రి, ఒప్పులు వెతికేవాడు పరాయేవాడు

tappulu vetikevadu tandri, oppulu vetikevadu parayevadu

Translation

The man who seeks out your faults is a father, but he that seeks for what is good in you is an envious person.

Meaning

This proverb highlights the role of a true well-wisher or a mentor. A father (or a true guardian) points out mistakes so that one can correct them and grow, whereas a stranger or someone indifferent might only offer superficial praise (finding 'only the good') without caring about one's actual improvement. It emphasizes that constructive criticism is a sign of true affection and responsibility.

Notes

You may be more thankful to the fault finder than to the good natured.

Related Phrases

A person without cattle and a person without children are the same.

In traditional agrarian societies, cattle were considered as vital as family members for one's livelihood and legacy. This expression highlights the essential role of livestock in prosperity, implying that lacking them is as significant a loss as not having heirs to carry on the family name or support the household.

One who has not is as one who is not in the world. i. e. A penniless man has nothing in the world.

This proverb highlights the harsh reality of social status and poverty. It suggests that a person without wealth or resources is often treated as if they have no place or belonging in the world, emphasizing how society values individuals based on their possessions.

Like searching for stones while having a mountain under one's head.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone searches for small, trivial things or minor solutions while ignoring a massive, obvious resource or solution they already possess. It highlights the irony of overlooking a great strength or asset in hand while worrying about insignificant details.

Will anyone worry for ghee when they have butter in hand?

This proverb is used to point out that it is foolish to worry about a finished product or a future result when you already possess the primary source or the means to create it. Since ghee is made by clarifying butter, having butter means you essentially have ghee. It encourages recognizing the value of what one currently possesses.

Like searching for lice in a place where there is no hair.

This expression is used to describe a futile or impossible task. It refers to someone wasting their time and effort trying to find something in a place where it couldn't possibly exist.

A washerman will only wash for one who thrashes him.

This proverb implies that people will only work diligently or honestly for someone who already understands the process and can identify flaws in the work. It is used to suggest that if you don't have knowledge about a task, others might take advantage of your ignorance or do a sub-par job.

There is a pun here on the word Utuku : it is the term used for beat- ing clothes—the Indian washerman's mode of cleansing them—and it also signifies in jocular language to " drub" or " thrash."

If the one who bites the skin leaves, the one who chews the bones will arrive.

This proverb is used to warn that replacing a bad person or situation might lead to an even worse alternative. It suggests that sometimes the current hardship, though difficult, is more manageable than the potential unknown trouble that follows. It is similar to the English expression 'out of the frying pan and into the fire'.

Like one who bows to the feet leaving, and one who grabs the throat arriving.

This proverb describes a situation where a manageable or respectful problem is replaced by a much more aggressive, dangerous, or life-threatening one. It is used when a situation goes from being mild or submissive to being hostile and suffocating.

Searching for a name for a baby who is not yet born.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone makes plans or arrangements for something that hasn't happened yet or is far from certain. It refers to being overly optimistic or premature in one's actions before the foundation is even laid.

Put the faultless man into the salt. If you cannot ruin him in any other way, put him into the Salt Depart- ment—there, you can easily bring a charge of dishonesty against him and get rid of him.

This proverb is used to describe an illogical, unjust, or tyrannical person who punishes someone innocent. Just as putting someone in salt is painful and destructive, the saying highlights the height of injustice where a person who has done nothing wrong is subjected to severe punishment due to someone's whim or arrogance.