ఉల్లి మల్లి కాదు, ఉంచుకున్నది పెళ్ళాం కాదు

ulli malli kadu, unchukunnadi pellam kadu

Translation

An onion is not a jasmine flower, and a mistress is not a wife.

Meaning

This proverb is used to highlight that certain things have inherent limitations and can never replace the original or the ideal. Just as an onion's pungent smell can never match the fragrance of a jasmine, a temporary or illegitimate relationship cannot provide the status, stability, or respect of a legal marriage.

Related Phrases

When there are onions Malli is a fine cook. Onions make up for bad cooking.

This expression highlights the essential role of onions in cooking, suggesting that with the right key ingredients or resources, even someone with mediocre skills can produce great results. It is often used to emphasize that having the necessary tools or materials makes a task much easier to accomplish successfully.

An onion is not a jasmine flower; a crow is not a cuckoo.

This proverb is used to emphasize that an object's or person's inherent nature cannot be changed just because of outward similarities or pretension. Just as an onion's smell prevents it from being a jasmine, and a crow's appearance doesn't make it a melodic cuckoo, intrinsic traits define true character.

He said it's not a small hole, it's a large hole.

This expression is used to describe someone who tries to sound clever or correct others by using a different word that means exactly the same thing. It highlights a distinction without a difference, mocking someone who argues over trivial terminology or semantics when the end result is identical.

Alli asked for it, Illi gave it, Malli made away with it.

This is a humorous and rhythmic proverb used to describe a situation where multiple people are involved in a process, but the final outcome is a loss or a mystery. It highlights how something can vanish or be mismanaged when passed through different hands, often used when assets or items are squandered through lack of accountability.

* Il n'est orguell que de pauvre enrichl.

No husband for the one legally wed, but a double-colored saree for the mistress.

This proverb describes a situation of misplaced priorities or unfair treatment where a person neglects their primary duties or legitimate responsibilities (like a spouse) while overspending or showing excessive affection towards an illegitimate or secondary interest. It is used to mock someone who ignores necessities but indulges in luxuries for the wrong reasons.

What one had is gone, and what one kept (or acquired) is also gone.

This expression describes a situation where a person loses their original possessions or status while unsuccessfully trying to gain something more. It is used to caution against excessive greed or poor decision-making that results in a total loss of both the old and the new.

He got it done in the street and kept it in the house.

This expression is used to describe someone who behaves recklessly or creates a mess/controversy in public, only to have to deal with the consequences and burdens within their own home. It often refers to someone who invites trouble through public actions and then has to live with the resulting problems privately.

A kept man is not a husband, an adopted one is not a son.

This traditional proverb suggests that certain relationships formed through convenience or external arrangements may lack the genuine legal, social, or biological permanence of original roles. It is often used to imply that something acquired or temporary cannot fully replace the original or legitimate version.

The man one keeps is not a husband, the child one raises is not a son.

This proverb reflects traditional social views on legitimacy and formal bonds. It suggests that informal relationships or foster care do not equate to the legal and social status of a marriage or biological lineage. It is often used to emphasize that titles or roles earned through convenience or temporary arrangements lack the permanence and sanctity of formal, recognized institutions.

Will an onion ever become a jasmine flower? Will a mistress ever become a wife?

This is a traditional Telugu proverb used to express the idea that things have an inherent nature or status that cannot be changed. It suggests that a substitute or an informal arrangement can never truly replace or equate to the original, formal, or sanctified version of something. It is often used to emphasize that some boundaries or social roles are permanent.