అబ్బ పెంచిన బిడ్డ అయినా కావాలి, అమ్మ పెంచిన బిడ్డ అయినా కావాలి, ముండ పెంచిన బిడ్డ మండలాధిపతి అవుతాడా?

abba penchina bidda ayina kavali, amma penchina bidda ayina kavali, munda penchina bidda mandaladhipati avutada?

Translation

A child must be raised by a father or a mother; can a child raised by a mistress become a ruler?

Meaning

This traditional proverb emphasizes the importance of a proper upbringing, parental guidance, and legitimate social standing in shaping a person's character and future success. It suggests that without the discipline and moral foundation provided by parents, one cannot achieve great heights or leadership roles. It is often used to highlight that a lack of proper mentorship leads to a lack of merit.

Related Phrases

Although you feed a snake with milk, it will not refrain from biting you.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where an inherently evil or ungrateful person will eventually cause harm, regardless of how much kindness, care, or help you provide them. It suggests that one's true nature cannot be changed by external kindness.

Even a ruler's daughter must be someone's wife.

This proverb highlights the traditional social reality that regardless of a woman's high birth, status, or wealth, she eventually leaves her parental home to become a wife. It is often used to signify that certain life transitions or social roles are universal and inevitable, regardless of one's background.

A mother must nurture, the earth must nurture; will strangers ever nurture?

This proverb emphasizes that genuine care, patience, and nourishment can only be expected from one's own mother or Mother Nature (the land). It suggests that outsiders or strangers will never have the same selfless commitment or 'protective' instinct toward someone else's growth as a parent or the earth does. It is often used to highlight the importance of roots and maternal care.

A child who vomits will survive (thrive)

This is a traditional Telugu saying used by elders to reassure worried parents when an infant spits up milk. It suggests that vomiting is a sign of a healthy appetite or overfeeding, and implies that the child is growing well and will remain healthy.

Like the only daughter becoming a Basivi (a ritual prostitute/nomadic singer).

This expression is used to describe a situation where the only resource or child available is ruined or rendered useless for the expected purpose. It highlights the tragedy of losing the only hope or support one had to an undesirable path or outcome.

One should either be a daughter-in-law of a big house or have water from a large lake.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of abundance and security. It suggests that for a person to thrive or live comfortably, they need to be associated with a source of great wealth, a large family with status, or a reliable, vast resource that ensures prosperity even in difficult times.

Whether it is a child or a calf, do we abandon them once they are born?

This expression is used to emphasize that once a project is started, a responsibility is taken, or a commitment is made, one must see it through regardless of the quality or the difficulties involved. It suggests that once something belongs to you or is your creation, you cannot simply discard it.

A child seen with one's eyes is greater than a child born from the womb.

This proverb emphasizes that nurturing, seeing, and taking care of a child with one's own eyes is more significant than the mere biological act of giving birth. It is often used to highlight the value of adoption, foster care, or the bond formed through upbringing over biological ties.

A son raised by a widow is like a bull without a nose ring.

This proverb is used to describe a person who grows up without discipline or a strong guiding authority figure. Just as a bull without a nose rope (mukudaram) is wild and uncontrollable, a child raised without firm guidance or supervision is perceived to grow up stubborn, disobedient, and wayward.

A child brought up by a widow is like a bullock without a nose-rope.

This proverb suggests that a child raised without proper discipline or parental guidance (traditionally implying the absence of a father figure or a strict guardian in a historical context) will grow up to be uncontrollable and reckless, just as an ox without a nose rope cannot be steered or restrained.