అవసరగాడికి ఆకులో పెడితే, నాకు బోకులో పెట్టమన్నట్టు.

avasaragadiki akulo pedite, naku bokulo pettamannattu.

Translation

When served in a leaf for the needy, he asked to be served in a bowl instead.

Meaning

This proverb describes someone who is in desperate need but still acts picky or makes unreasonable demands. It is used to criticize people who, despite being in a position where they should be grateful for any help, show arrogance or dissatisfaction with the way they are being assisted.

Related Phrases

Like a drop of water on a lotus leaf. A very unsettled state.

This expression describes a state of detachment or instability. Just as water stays on a lotus leaf without getting absorbed or sticking to it, it represents a person who remains unaffected by worldly attachments or circumstances despite living among them. It can also describe something that is fleeting or precarious.

A cane for the school and manure for the field.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of discipline and nourishment for growth. Just as a field needs fertilizer (manure) to yield a good crop, a student needs discipline (symbolized by the cane) to acquire knowledge and character. It is used to explain that different environments require specific tools or methods to produce the best results.

You can serve the greedy person later, but first put it in my lap.

This proverb is used to mock someone who pretends to be selfless or patient while being extremely impatient and greedy themselves. It describes a situation where a person claims to care about order or others' needs, but their actions reveal they want immediate gratification for themselves first.

Staying humble and hidden like a tiny fruit behind a leaf.

This expression is used to describe someone who stays extremely humble, modest, or inconspicuous, often hiding their true potential or presence to avoid drawing attention. It describes a state of being very quiet, obedient, or submissive in a given situation.

Like the kinship matching between Ramanna and Bhimanna.

This expression is used to describe a situation where a relationship or connection is forced, illogical, or makes no sense. It refers to a scenario where two people or things are linked together despite having no real commonality or legitimate kinship.

Give the man who is in a hurry his food on a leaf, but give me mine on the floor. The food of Hindus is ordinarily served on a large leaf or several small leaves sewn together. Applied to a person wishing to have something done for himself in great haste, before others are attended to.

This proverb highlights the fickle nature of selfish people who seek help only when they are in need. It describes a situation where someone treats you with respect (serving on a leaf) when they want something from you, but treats you with disregard (serving on the floor) once their need is met.

One who cannot keep his wife in control, can he control everyone else?

This proverb suggests that if a person cannot manage their own domestic affairs or immediate responsibilities, they are unlikely to be capable of leading or controlling a larger group of people. It is used to mock the leadership claims of those who lack discipline in their personal lives.

Like asking a mother who serves food for free to serve it along with your husband.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone is already receiving a generous favor or benefit for free, but they greedily or foolishly ask for even more, potentially offending the benefactor or pushing their luck too far. It highlights the lack of gratitude and the tendency to take kindness for granted.

Sowing seeds during Arudra Karthi is as certain as rice served on a leaf.

Arudra is a specific astrological period (Karthi) considered extremely auspicious and reliable for agriculture in Telugu culture. This proverb suggests that seeds sown during this time are guaranteed to yield a harvest, just as food served on a plate is guaranteed to be eaten. It is used to emphasize certainty, reliability, and the importance of timing.

If given, it's a marriage; if not, it's shattered pieces.

This proverb describes a fickle or opportunistic person who is pleasant and supportive only as long as they receive favors or benefits. If their demands are met, everything is celebrated (like a wedding); if not, they turn hostile and create trouble (represented by the sound of crackers or destruction).