అయినవాడు కాలుదువ్వితే కానివాడు మీదికి వస్తాడు

ayinavadu kaluduvvite kanivadu midiki vastadu

Translation

If your own person challenges you, an outsider will attack you.

Meaning

This proverb highlights that internal conflicts or lack of unity among relatives/allies make one vulnerable to outsiders. When your own people turn against you or disrespect you, it gives strangers the courage and opportunity to cause you harm.

Related Phrases

He who gives is a donor, he who does not give is a clout.

This expression highlights that generosity earns a person respect and a lasting legacy. A person who helps others is remembered as a benefactor, whereas someone who is stingy or refuses to help is quickly forgotten or disregarded by society. It is used to encourage charity and reflect on the social value of giving.

The impertinent speech of a beggar.

Will he who is disliked by his mother, be liked by his nurse?

This proverb is used to point out that if a person fails to fulfill their duties or show respect to those closest to them (like their own parents), they cannot be trusted to be faithful or caring toward others. It highlights that character is consistent, and one who neglects primary relationships will likely neglect secondary ones as well.

There is nothing a lazy person doesn't wish for, and nothing a hater doesn't say.

This proverb describes two types of people: a lazy person (opani vaadu) who desires everything without wanting to work for it, and a spiteful person (ollani vaadu) who will resort to any lie or criticism against someone they dislike. It is used to highlight the hypocrisy of wanting results without effort or the tendency of people to badmouth those they are biased against.

If a crab gets too fat (haughty), it won't stay in its hole.

This proverb is used to describe a person who becomes arrogant or overconfident due to newfound wealth, power, or success. Such arrogance eventually leads them to step out of their boundaries, behave recklessly, and ultimately invite trouble or downfall. It serves as a warning against being over-proud.

There is nothing which an invalid will not ask for; and there is nothing which an envious man will not say.

This proverb describes human nature regarding laziness and jealousy. It implies that a person who is unable or unwilling to work (incapable) often makes grand demands or wishes for things without effort, while a person who cannot tolerate others' success (envious) will spread rumors or say anything to belittle them. It is used to criticize those who talk big but do nothing, or those who gossip out of spite.

An unfriendly person is equal to one that is not.

This expression is used to describe a situation where two people who are equally useless, incapable, or lacking resources join forces. It implies that their partnership will be unproductive because neither has the means or character to succeed or help the other. It is often used to mock an alliance that is destined for failure.

One who trusts the land and fails cannot be found even for a sample.

This proverb emphasizes the reliability of agriculture and land. It suggests that while people might fail in other businesses, someone who works the land with dedication will never be ruined or go destitute. It is used to highlight that land is a permanent asset that always provides a livelihood.

Like the one who gave birth and raised (the child) slipping their foot.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone who is highly experienced, responsible, or the very creator/protector of something makes a fundamental or unexpected mistake. It highlights the irony and disappointment when a person who is supposed to know better or be most careful ends up failing or committing an error.

If the person who promised tells a lie, the one who joined/trusted him has to suffer the consequences.

This proverb highlights shared responsibility and the consequences of poor associations. It means that if a leader or a partner goes back on their word or commits a mistake, those who supported or followed them must endure the resulting hardships or losses.

Like a person who went to fetch medicine returning in time for the monthly funeral rites.

This proverb is used to describe someone who is extremely slow or procrastinates to a ridiculous extent. It depicts a situation where a person sent to get life-saving medicine for a patient returns so late that the patient has already died and it is time for the 'Masikam' (a ritual performed one month after death).