ఏటికి ఎప్పుడు పోయినావు ఇసుక ఎప్పుడు తెచ్చినావు అంటే, ఆడవారు తలిస్తే అది ఎంతసేపు అన్నదట—మొగవారు తలిస్తే ఇది ఎంతసేపు అని నాలుగు బాదినాడట.

etiki eppudu poyinavu isuka eppudu techchinavu ante, adavaru taliste adi entasepu annadata—mogavaru taliste idi entasepu ani nalugu badinadata.

Translation

" When did you go to the river, when did you bring the sand ?" [asked the husband ] "If women like, how long will that take ?" [saucily replied the wife ] "If men like, how long will this take ?" [said the husband ] giving her four double-handers. The husband's question was caused by finding sand in his food.

Meaning

This proverb is a sarcastic take on making excuses and the consequences of over-cleverness. It describes a situation where a woman tries to cover up a lie with a boastful remark about her capabilities, only for her husband to respond with a harsh reality check. It is used to caution against making unrealistic claims or using wit to hide faults, as it may provoke an equally strong or stronger reaction.

Notes

* Il faut tendre volle selon le vent.

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