ఇచ్చినవాడు ఇంట పీనుగు వెళ్ళినట్లు, పుచ్చుకున్నవాడు పుత్రకామేష్టి.
ichchinavadu inta pinugu vellinatlu, puchchukunnavadu putrakameshti.
The giver feels like a corpse is leaving the house, while the receiver feels like he is performing a ritual for a son.
This proverb describes the contrasting emotions in a transaction or lending situation. The person giving away money or a resource feels a sense of loss and mourning (similar to a death in the house), whereas the person receiving it feels immense joy and celebration (similar to the happiness of a holy ritual to gain an heir). It is used to highlight how painful it is to part with wealth and how delightful it is to acquire it.
Related Phrases
ఇచ్చినవాడు దాత, ఇవ్వనివాడు పాత
ichchinavadu data, ivvanivadu pata
He who gives is a donor, he who does not give is a clout.
This expression highlights that generosity earns a person respect and a lasting legacy. A person who helps others is remembered as a benefactor, whereas someone who is stingy or refuses to help is quickly forgotten or disregarded by society. It is used to encourage charity and reflect on the social value of giving.
The impertinent speech of a beggar.
వ్యాధి వచ్చినవాడు వెట్టి పట్టినవాడు ఒకటి.
vyadhi vachchinavadu vetti pattinavadu okati.
One who is diseased and one who is forced into labor are the same.
This proverb highlights that a person suffering from a disease and a person forced into unpaid manual labor (vetti) share a similar plight—both lose their freedom of will and are under a constant state of suffering or compulsion. It is used to describe situations where a person has no choice but to endure hardship.
పిల్లకేడిస్తే, కాటివాడు కాసుకేడ్డాడట.
pillakediste, kativadu kasukeddadata.
While one mourns for the child, the gravedigger mourns for the coin.
This proverb is used to describe a situation where one person is in deep grief or facing a serious problem, while another person is only interested in their personal gain or profit from that situation. It highlights extreme selfishness and lack of empathy.
ఇచ్చింది ఇచ్చి పుచ్చుకున్నట్లు
ichchindi ichchi puchchukunnatlu
Giving what was given and taking back what was taken
This expression is used to describe a situation where an exchange or transaction results in no net gain or change, essentially returning to the original state. It is often used to describe futile efforts or circular logic where one ends up exactly where they started.
పుచ్చుకున్నప్పుడు పుత్రుడు పుట్టినంత సంతోషం, ఇచ్చేటప్పుడు ఇంటాయన పోయినంత దుఃఖం
puchchukunnappudu putrudu puttinanta santosham, ichchetappudu intayana poyinanta duhkham
Happiness like that of a son's birth when receiving, and sorrow like that of a husband's death when giving back.
This proverb is used to describe a person's hypocrisy or double standards regarding money or favors. It highlights how some people are extremely joyful when taking a loan or receiving help, but feel immense pain and bitterness when the time comes to repay it or return the favor.
ఇచ్చినవాడే నచ్చినవాడు, చచ్చినవాడే అచ్చినవాడు
ichchinavade nachchinavadu, chachchinavade achchinavadu
The one who gives is liked, the one who dies is free of debt.
This proverb reflects a pragmatic and somewhat cynical view of human nature. It suggests that people only like those who provide them with something or give them money. The second part implies that a person's debts are effectively canceled or their accounts are settled only when they pass away, often used to comment on the difficulty of recovering debts or the fleeting nature of social approval based on transactions.
ఉంచుకున్నవాడు మొగుడూ కాదు, పెంచుకున్నవాడు కొడుకూ కాదు
unchukunnavadu mogudu kadu, penchukunnavadu koduku kadu
A kept man is not a husband, an adopted one is not a son.
This traditional proverb suggests that certain relationships formed through convenience or external arrangements may lack the genuine legal, social, or biological permanence of original roles. It is often used to imply that something acquired or temporary cannot fully replace the original or legitimate version.
వెన్న పుచ్చుకొని వేసినవారిని రాయి పుచ్చుకొని వేతురా?
venna puchchukoni vesinavarini rayi puchchukoni vetura?
Will you throw stones on those that threw butter ? Returning evil for good.
This expression emphasizes the importance of responding to kindness with kindness, rather than with hostility or ingratitude. It is used to suggest that if someone treats you gently or does you a favor (symbolized by butter), it is morally wrong to respond with harshness or harm (symbolized by a stone).
ఉంచుకున్నవాడు మగడు కాడు, పెంచుకున్నవాడు కొడుకు కాడు
unchukunnavadu magadu kadu, penchukunnavadu koduku kadu
The man one keeps is not a husband, the child one raises is not a son.
This proverb reflects traditional social views on legitimacy and formal bonds. It suggests that informal relationships or foster care do not equate to the legal and social status of a marriage or biological lineage. It is often used to emphasize that titles or roles earned through convenience or temporary arrangements lack the permanence and sanctity of formal, recognized institutions.
ఇచ్చినవాడే మెచ్చినవాడు, చచ్చినవాడే అచ్చినవాడు.
ichchinavade mechchinavadu, chachchinavade achchinavadu.
The over liberal man is ruined ; when a man dies, his debts go with him.
This proverb highlights two harsh realities of life: people only appreciate those who are generous or provide help, and once a person dies, their debts and obligations often perish with them, making it impossible to recover what was owed. It is used to describe the nature of gratitude and the finality of death regarding liabilities.