ఇహం పరం లేదమ్మా, ఇచ్చినచోటే ఉండమ్మా

iham param ledamma, ichchinachote undamma

Translation

There is neither this world nor the next; stay right where you were given.

Meaning

This proverb is used to describe a person who lacks ambition, sense, or direction, or a situation that leads nowhere. It suggests that since there is no progress or spiritual gain being made, one might as well remain in their current state or return to their original position. It is often used sarcastically to mock someone's uselessness or lack of growth.

Related Phrases

Rain during the Chitta star period falls wherever it pleases.

This proverb is based on agricultural observations regarding the 'Chitta' nakshatram (a specific period in the lunar calendar). It suggests that rainfall during this time is highly unpredictable and localized, falling in one spot while leaving a nearby area dry. It is used metaphorically to describe situations that are inconsistent, whimsical, or depend entirely on the unpredictable will of a person or nature.

The wedding is over, and the worry has subsided.

This expression is used when a long-standing responsibility, burden, or major task is finally completed, leading to a sense of relief. It implies that once a major hurdle is crossed, the associated anxiety and stress naturally disappear.

Selling firewood in the same place where sandalwood was sold

This expression refers to a situation where a person or a place has fallen from a position of great prestige, prosperity, or high status to a very low or common state. It highlights the contrast between past glory (sandalwood) and current struggle or mediocrity (firewood).

The giver is a housefly, the receiver is a tiger.

This proverb highlights the irony and unfairness in certain transactions or interpersonal dynamics. The person who gives or lends something is often timid, weak, or hesitant (like a fly) when asking for it back, while the person who received it becomes aggressive, demanding, or fierce (like a tiger) when it is time to return the favor or the item.

As if bathing in the same place where castor oil is present.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone is extremely slow, sluggish, or stuck in one place. Just as castor oil makes a surface sticky and difficult to move on, it refers to a person who lacks speed or progress in their actions.

One should not sell firewood in the same place where they once sold flowers.

This proverb emphasizes maintaining one's dignity and self-respect. It suggests that if a person has lived a life of status, prosperity, or high standards (represented by flowers), they should not stoop to a lowly or desperate position (represented by firewood) in the same community. It is often used to advise people to protect their reputation and not settle for less than what they have earned.

Moonlight shines only where the sun has shone

This proverb suggests that prosperity or happiness (moonlight) usually visits those who have already experienced hard work or success (sunlight). It implies that opportunities and good fortune favor those who are already in a position of strength or have put in the effort.

The woman who couldn't live fell into a well and died.

This expression is used to mock someone who makes a dramatic scene or an empty threat out of laziness or a lack of will to face responsibilities. It highlights a situation where someone chooses an easy, albeit extreme, way out rather than putting in the effort to sustain their life or solve their problems.

Earth is dust, the afterlife is gold

This expression is used to highlight the transient and worthless nature of worldly life (Iham) compared to the eternal and precious nature of the spiritual or after-life (Param). It suggests that material pursuits are like soil/mud, whereas spiritual merit is as valuable as gold.

The woman who has gives to the woman who has; the woman who has not also gives to the woman who has.

This proverb describes a social irony where resources or gifts tend to flow towards those who are already wealthy or powerful, rather than to those in need. It highlights that everyone seeks to please the rich, while the poor are often ignored or even forced to give up what little they have to those above them.