కొడుకు మనవాడైనా కోడలు మనదవుతుందా?
koduku manavadaina kodalu manadavutunda?
Even if the son is ours, will the daughter-in-law become ours?
This expression highlights the inherent distance or difference in perspective felt toward someone who enters a family from the outside. It is used to suggest that despite biological or legal ties, a newcomer (like a daughter-in-law) might not share the same deep-rooted loyalty or belonging as one's own children, or that family dynamics change significantly after marriage.
Related Phrases
అక్క మనది అయితే, బావ మనవాడా?
akka manadi ayite, bava manavada?
The sister is ours, but is the sisters's husband ours also ?
This proverb highlights that personal relationships do not automatically extend to third parties or transfer ownership/loyalty. It is used to caution against over-relying on someone just because they are related to a close person of yours, emphasizing that their interests or loyalties might still remain separate.
కన్ను మనదే, వేలూ మనదేనని పొడుచుకుంటామా?
kannu manade, velu manadenani poduchukuntama?
Just because both the eye and the finger are ours, would we poke our own eye?
This expression is used to advise against self-harm or hurting one's own interests, especially during internal disputes or family conflicts. It emphasizes that even if someone involved is 'one of our own,' we should not act recklessly or destructively, as the ultimate loss is our own.
కొడుకు మనవాడైతే కోడలు మనదౌతుందా
koduku manavadaite kodalu manadautunda
If the son is ours, will the daughter-in-law also become ours?
This proverb is used to express the reality that one's influence or claim over their own children does not automatically extend to their children's spouses. It highlights the natural distance or lack of blood relation between a person and their daughter-in-law, suggesting that one cannot expect the same level of loyalty or belonging from her as they do from their son.
గుణము మానవే గూటాల పోలీ అంటే, నా మనువయినా మానుతాను గానీ నా గుణము మానను అన్నదట
gunamu manave gutala poli ante, na manuvayina manutanu gani na gunamu mananu annadata
When Gūṭāla Pōli was told to amend her ways, she said she would rather break off the match. Obstinate behaviour. Stubborn conduct.
This proverb describes a stubborn person who refuses to change their inherent nature or bad habits, even if it costs them their most important relationships or well-being. It is used to highlight that a person's basic temperament is often unchangeable, regardless of the consequences.
* Chi ha testa di vetro non faocia a' sass. † Il cico non des giudicar del colori.
ముండ కొడుకే కొడుకు, రాజు కొడుకే కొడుకు
munda koduke koduku, raju koduke koduku
A widow's son is a son, a king's son is a son. A king's son and a widow's son are both greatly indulged.
This proverb highlights that fate or luck favors two extremes: either those who have nothing to lose and must work extremely hard (the widow's son) or those who are born with immense privilege (the king's son). It is used to describe how people at the very bottom of the social ladder and the very top often end up being the most successful or influential, albeit for different reasons.
కొడుకు ముద్దు, కోడలు మొద్దు.
koduku muddu, kodalu moddu.
The son is a darling, while the daughter-in-law is a blockhead.
This proverb reflects a common human bias and double standard within families. It highlights how parents often overlook their own child's faults (viewing them with affection) while being overly critical, dismissive, or insensitive toward their daughter-in-law's efforts and intelligence.
కనిపెంచిననాడు కొడుకులుగాని, కోడళ్లు వచ్చాక కొడుకులా?
kanipenchinanadu kodukulugani, kodallu vachchaka kodukula?
They are sons only while being birthed and raised; are they still sons once the daughters-in-law arrive?
This proverb reflects a cynical or traditional social observation about how sons often change their priorities or distance themselves from their parents after getting married. It is used to express the disappointment of parents who feel neglected by their sons due to the influence of their wives (daughters-in-law).
పెండ్లికొడుకు మనవాడేగాని, చెవులపోగులు మాత్రం మనవిగావు.
pendlikoduku manavadegani, chevulapogulu matram manavigavu.
The bridegroom is ours, but his earrings are not ours.
This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone or something might be closely related to you or under your control, but the resources or assets they possess belong to someone else. It highlights the distinction between personal relationships and ownership of property, or a situation where one's authority is limited despite a close connection.
మంచి మాటకు మంది అంతా మనవాళ్లే.
manchi mataku mandi anta manavalle.
For a good word, everyone is ours.
This proverb emphasizes that kind speech and pleasant behavior can win over anyone. If you speak politely and kindly, the whole world becomes your kin, whereas harsh words alienate even close friends.
కొడుకు మిన్న కోడలు సన్న
koduku minna kodalu sanna
The son is great, but the daughter-in-law is thin (small)
This proverb is used to describe a biased attitude where parents overlook their own son's faults or give him excessive credit while being overly critical, dismissive, or demanding toward the daughter-in-law. It highlights the unequal treatment and double standards often found in family dynamics.