అక్క మనది అయితే, బావ మనవాడా?

akka manadi ayite, bava manavada?

Translation

The sister is ours, but is the sisters's husband ours also ?

Meaning

This proverb highlights that personal relationships do not automatically extend to third parties or transfer ownership/loyalty. It is used to caution against over-relying on someone just because they are related to a close person of yours, emphasizing that their interests or loyalties might still remain separate.

Related Phrases

However good the pig may be, it will never cease to eat filth.

This proverb is used to describe an individual's innate or ingrained nature. It suggests that even if someone appears to have changed or improved, they will eventually return to their true, often negative, habits or character when the opportunity arises. It is similar to the English expression 'A leopard cannot change its spots'.

A hog in armour is still but a hog.

When addressed affectionately as brother-in-law, he invited her to bed.

This proverb describes a situation where someone takes undue advantage of friendliness or intimacy. It is used when a person mistakes a polite or affectionate gesture for a weakness and responds with an inappropriate or overstepping demand. It highlights the behavior of individuals who lack boundaries and exploit a relationship's closeness.

What is destined to happen will not stop, what is destined to come will not fail to arrive.

This expression is used to convey a sense of fatalism or destiny. It suggests that future events are inevitable and that worrying about them is futile because whatever is meant to happen will happen regardless of human intervention.

Sister's grudge and brother-in-law's kindness.

This proverb describes a situation where one person (like an elder sister) holds a grudge or is stern, while another closely related person (like the brother-in-law) is kind and accommodating. It is used to illustrate contrasting behaviors within a family or a team, often implying that the kindness of one might be a facade or ineffective due to the hostility of the other.

If the son is ours, will the daughter-in-law also become ours?

This proverb is used to express the reality that one's influence or claim over their own children does not automatically extend to their children's spouses. It highlights the natural distance or lack of blood relation between a person and their daughter-in-law, suggesting that one cannot expect the same level of loyalty or belonging from her as they do from their son.

Do not say a cobra is small; do not say an enemy is weak.

This proverb warns against underestimating potential dangers based on size or appearance. Just as even a small cobra possesses deadly venom, an opponent or enemy, regardless of how weak or diminished they may seem, can still cause significant harm. It is used to advise caution and vigilance.

To a lean man, a wealthy man is a brother-in-law; to a wealthy man, a lean man is also a brother-in-law.

This proverb highlights the reciprocity and equality inherent in kinship and relationships, regardless of economic status. In Telugu culture, 'Bava' (brother-in-law) denotes a close relative. The saying suggests that blood relations or social bonds remain the same regardless of one person being rich (balisinavadu) and the other being poor (bakkavadu). It is used to emphasize that status shouldn't change how family members treat or address one another.

Even if the son is ours, will the daughter-in-law become ours?

This expression highlights the inherent distance or difference in perspective felt toward someone who enters a family from the outside. It is used to suggest that despite biological or legal ties, a newcomer (like a daughter-in-law) might not share the same deep-rooted loyalty or belonging as one's own children, or that family dynamics change significantly after marriage.

Everything is only for our good.

Normally used in comforting someone, the statement indicates that acceptance of what befalls one is a positive attitude. Worrying about what is unavoidable serves no purpose. One should realize what will be, will be.

For a good word, everyone is ours.

This proverb emphasizes that kind speech and pleasant behavior can win over anyone. If you speak politely and kindly, the whole world becomes your kin, whereas harsh words alienate even close friends.