మిండగాడు డబ్బివ్వకపోతే మొగుడితో పోయినట్లు అనుకుంటాను పొమ్మన్నదట

mindagadu dabbivvakapote mogudito poyinatlu anukuntanu pommannadata

Translation

If the paramour doesn't pay, I'll consider it as if I went with my husband, so go away.

Meaning

This is a sarcastic or cynical proverb used to describe a situation where someone settles for an original or legitimate option only after a 'better' or illicit option fails to provide a benefit. It points out the hypocrisy of treating one's duty or primary relationship as a last resort or a consolation prize.

Related Phrases

Dammanna's raid won't leave even if told to go

This proverb is used to describe a persistent problem, an unwanted guest, or a stubborn situation that refuses to go away despite several attempts to get rid of it. It refers to a nuisance that has overstayed its welcome.

She that gave neither food nor drink, beat [me] and said "be off." Said by a beggar.

This proverb describes a person who is not only uncharitable or unhelpful but also behaves rudely or aggressively towards those seeking help. It is used to highlight a situation where instead of receiving expected hospitality or assistance, one receives harsh treatment.

Seeing her paramour, she said she would jump into the fire pit.

This expression describes a situation where someone performs a dramatic, hypocritical act of devotion or sacrifice only when an audience (specifically someone they want to impress) is watching. It is used to mock fake sincerity or theatrical displays of loyalty that lack true substance.

If the paramour doesn't pay, she said she'd just consider it as having spent time with her husband.

This proverb describes a person who tries to find a face-saving justification or a silver lining even after failing in a shameful or unethical endeavor. It is used to mock people who pretend that their failure was actually their original intent or a matter of no consequence.

When a woman of good reputation ran away with a washerman, people thought it must be a religious vow.

This proverb describes a situation where people are so blinded by someone's past reputation or status that they justify or misinterpret their obvious wrongdoings as something noble or intentional. It is used to critique blind faith or the tendency to give undue benefit of doubt to influential people.

While going to the village fair, they said to take it off; while going to a wedding, they said to put it on.

This proverb describes a situation where a person is given contradictory advice or where things are handled based on the specific context and necessity. It highlights the irony or the double standards in instructions given by others depending on the occasion—encouraging modesty or safety in crowds (fair) and display of wealth at celebrations (wedding).

Like asking a mother who serves food for free to serve it along with your husband.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone is already receiving a generous favor or benefit for free, but they greedily or foolishly ask for even more, potentially offending the benefactor or pushing their luck too far. It highlights the lack of gratitude and the tendency to take kindness for granted.

One Lingadu may be gone, but chew well and swallow, he said.

This proverb describes a situation where someone experiences a significant loss or misfortune, yet they continue to focus on trivial or unrelated matters, or offer unsolicited, minor advice in the face of a larger disaster. It is used to mock people who remain stubbornly focused on small details when everything is already ruined.

If I get up, I won't be a human; so just leave me in the corner and go.

This expression is used to describe an extremely lazy person who makes grand, empty threats or boasts of their power to avoid doing work. It mockingly portrays someone who claims they would be dangerously powerful if they ever stood up, but uses that as an excuse to remain idle and be served by others.

He said that if he doesn't destroy a settled family life, he isn't her husband after all.

This expression is used to describe a person who is habitually malicious or someone whose primary intent is to create rifts and chaos in others' stable lives. It highlights a character that takes pride in being a home-wrecker or a source of trouble for happy families.