మొండికెక్కిన దాన్ని మొగుడేం చేస్తాడు, రచ్చకెక్కిన దాన్ని రాజేం చేస్తాడు?

mondikekkina danni mogudem chestadu, rachchakekkina danni rajem chestadu?

Translation

What can a husband do to an adamant woman, and what can a king do to a woman who has taken her grievance to the public square?

Meaning

This proverb highlights the limitations of authority when dealing with someone who has become completely stubborn or has already crossed the limits of social shame. It suggests that once a person becomes defiant (adamant) or decides to expose a private matter publicly (to the street/court), traditional authorities like a husband or even a king lose their power to control or discipline them.

Related Phrases

What can a husband do to a stubborn woman? What can a king do to a woman who has gone to the public square?

This proverb highlights the limitations of authority when dealing with shamelessness or extreme defiance. It means that if a person becomes utterly stubborn or discards their reputation by taking a private matter to the public (causing a scene), even those in power (like a husband in a traditional household or a king in a state) cannot control or reform them. It is used to describe situations where someone is beyond the reach of social norms or discipline.

Even a King cannot do anything once a matter goes to the public square.

This expression suggests that once a secret or a private dispute becomes public knowledge (reaches the 'raccha' or village square), the damage to one's reputation is irreversible and even the most powerful person cannot suppress it or protect the person involved from social judgment.

When a quarrelsome woman creates a scene in public, a decent woman hides behind the pots.

This proverb describes a social dynamic where aggressive or loud people dominate public spaces, while dignified or well-behaved individuals tend to withdraw or hide to avoid conflict or shame. It is used to explain why decent people often stay quiet when faced with rowdy or confrontational individuals.

Like the secrets of the house being brought to the public square

This expression is used when a private family matter, secret, or internal conflict is exposed to the public. It highlights the embarrassment or loss of reputation that occurs when personal issues are discussed openly in a community or marketplace (raccha).

She hit the mother-in-law and climbed the loft; she hit the husband and reached the front porch.

This proverb describes a defiant or reckless person who shows no remorse or fear after committing an offense. Instead of hiding in shame after insulting or hurting family elders (the mother-in-law and husband), she boldly moves to a more prominent or defiant position. It is used to characterize someone who acts with extreme arrogance and audacity despite their wrongdoings.

Why should there be negotiations in an assembly that has already gone public?

This expression is used to indicate that there is no point in trying to settle a matter through private mediation or secret diplomacy once it has become a matter of public knowledge and debate. It suggests that once a dispute is out in the open, formal negotiations lose their purpose.

Why attempt secret negotiations in a public assembly?

This proverb is used to point out the futility of trying to keep something confidential or settle matters through diplomacy once the issue has already become public knowledge or a matter of open debate. It suggests that once a conflict is out in the open, private mediation is no longer effective or relevant.

If one becomes stubborn, what can the husband do? If one is placed on a stone, what can the brother-in-law do?

This proverb is used to describe a situation where a person is extremely obstinate or refuses to cooperate. It implies that if a person decides to be unyielding or irrational (becoming 'mandi'), even those with authority or close relations cannot influence or help them. It highlights the helplessness of others when dealing with someone who is determined to be difficult.

What can a husband do to a refractory wife ? What can a king do to a woman who enters the hall of audience?

This proverb highlights that when a person becomes completely stubborn or shameless and decides to air their grievances or behavior in public (defying social norms), even those in authority like a husband or a king cannot control or reform them. It is used to describe situations where a person has lost their fear of consequences or social reputation.

If she becomes stubborn, what can the husband do? If she climbs a rock, what can the brother-in-law do?

This proverb describes a situation where a person is so stubborn or defiant that no amount of authority or relationship can influence them. It is used to highlight that when someone is determined to be unreasonable or uncooperative, others around them become helpless to change the outcome.