ముండ కొడుకు మాటికి చెడితే, ముండ నూటికి చెడుతుంది

munda koduku matiki chedite, munda nutiki chedutundi

Translation

If the widow's son is ruined once, the widow is ruined a hundred times.

Meaning

This proverb is used to illustrate how the mistakes or downfall of a dependent or a loved one can lead to the total ruin of their protector or family. It emphasizes that a single failure of a child can have a magnified negative impact on the parent who relies on them.

Related Phrases

Which comes first, the blow or the Ekadashi fast?

This proverb is used to describe a situation where a person is already suffering from one problem and is suddenly hit with another. It specifically refers to being caught between a physical hardship (the blow) and a religious or self-imposed hardship (the fast). It is used when someone is overwhelmed by consecutive or simultaneous troubles.

If the son is ours, will the daughter-in-law also become ours?

This proverb is used to express the reality that one's influence or claim over their own children does not automatically extend to their children's spouses. It highlights the natural distance or lack of blood relation between a person and their daughter-in-law, suggesting that one cannot expect the same level of loyalty or belonging from her as they do from their son.

Even if the son is ours, will the daughter-in-law become ours?

This expression highlights the inherent distance or difference in perspective felt toward someone who enters a family from the outside. It is used to suggest that despite biological or legal ties, a newcomer (like a daughter-in-law) might not share the same deep-rooted loyalty or belonging as one's own children, or that family dynamics change significantly after marriage.

A widow's son is a son, a king's son is a son. A king's son and a widow's son are both greatly indulged.

This proverb highlights that fate or luck favors two extremes: either those who have nothing to lose and must work extremely hard (the widow's son) or those who are born with immense privilege (the king's son). It is used to describe how people at the very bottom of the social ladder and the very top often end up being the most successful or influential, albeit for different reasons.

Like asking whether the tree came first or the seed first.

This expression is used to describe a classic chicken-and-egg dilemma or a circular argument where it is impossible to determine which of two related things happened or existed first. It is often applied to situations involving infinite regress or complex causal loops.

Is the river first or the plowing festival first?

This is a rhetorical expression or a riddle-like saying often used to discuss the cyclical nature of things or to question priorities. 'Eruvaka' refers to the traditional festival marking the beginning of the plowing season. It highlights the deep connection between the arrival of rains (rivers) and the start of agricultural activity.

If it were a surviving child, would it smell of decay?

This proverb is used to point out that something destined for success or quality will show positive signs from the beginning. It is often used as a sarcastic retort when someone tries to defend a project, person, or situation that is clearly failing or fundamentally flawed. Just as a healthy infant shouldn't smell like a corpse, a viable plan shouldn't show signs of immediate failure.

Was the hammer first, or were the tongs ?

This expression is used to describe a situation of extreme confusion, circular logic, or a 'chicken and egg' dilemma. It refers to the irony that a blacksmith needs a hammer to make pincers, but needs pincers to hold the metal to make a hammer. It is often used to mock someone who is confused about the order of operations or stuck in a paradox.

The son must flourish, and the daughter-in-law must become a widow.

This proverb describes a paradoxical or impossible desire, highlighting human selfishness or hypocrisy. Since a woman can only become a widow if her husband (the son) dies, wishing for both simultaneously is a logical contradiction. It is used to mock people who want all the benefits for themselves without accepting the necessary consequences, or those who harbor ill will that would ultimately hurt their own interests.

Did the auspicious wedding time come first, or did the palanquin arrive first?

This proverb is used to describe a situation where one is caught up in trivial or logistical details (like the arrival of a transport palanquin) while overlooking the primary, essential event (the wedding timing itself). It refers to poor prioritization or unnecessary confusion regarding the order of events.