నీ కూడుతిని, నీ గుడ్డకట్టి, నాకు కాపురం చేయమన్నాడట

ni kudutini, ni guddakatti, naku kapuram cheyamannadata

Translation

He asked to eat your food, wear your clothes, and live with me as a wife.

Meaning

This proverb describes a situation where someone expects all the benefits and resources from others without contributing anything of their own, often used to mock someone's extreme dependency or audacity in making unreasonable demands while offering nothing in return.

Related Phrases

When asked to fast, you asked if I wanted to be branded with a hot iron.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone reacts excessively or suggests an extreme, painful alternative to a simple request or task. It highlights a lack of understanding or an exaggerated response to a suggestion.

Will a household that fell into the Ganges ever reach the shore?

This proverb is used to describe a situation or life that has been completely ruined or devastated beyond recovery. Just as something swept away by a powerful river like the Ganges is unlikely to be recovered, a family or business that has faced total downfall due to bad habits or extreme misfortune rarely returns to its former glory.

Clear your debts and then live in the marketplace.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of financial freedom and peace of mind. It suggests that once a person is free from debt, they can live fearlessly and confidently anywhere, even in a busy or public place like a market, without the shame or fear of facing creditors.

Staying together brings happiness; staying apart brings troubles.

This proverb emphasizes the strength and joy found in a joint family system or unity. It suggests that living together as a collective unit (Koodali) leads to a vibrant, bustling, and happy life, whereas living separately or divided (Veradi) leads to loneliness and hardships.

If one's own character is good, one can live even in a neighborhood of ill-repute.

This proverb emphasizes that personal integrity and character are internal traits that do not depend on one's surroundings. If a person is truly virtuous, they will remain untainted and honorable regardless of the environment or the company they are forced to keep. It is used to suggest that strong moral fiber protects an individual from external negative influences.

Build a small house, but lead a large family life.

This proverb advises financial prudence and modesty. It suggests that one should build a small, affordable house within their means, but focus on building a large, happy, and prosperous family or household within it. It emphasizes prioritizing people and relationships over grand material possessions.

When told there's a scorpion on your head, he asked the same person to remove it with their hand

This expression describes a person who is extremely lazy or lacks a sense of urgency and self-preservation. It is used to mock someone who expects others to handle even their most personal or immediate dangers without making any effort themselves.

One should either stay where they are born or live in their parents' home.

This expression emphasizes the importance of stability and having a secure home base. It is often used to suggest that if one cannot succeed or find peace elsewhere, it is best to return to one's roots or parental home where there is unconditional support and safety.

He said that if he doesn't destroy a settled family life, he isn't her husband after all.

This expression is used to describe a person who is habitually malicious or someone whose primary intent is to create rifts and chaos in others' stable lives. It highlights a character that takes pride in being a home-wrecker or a source of trouble for happy families.

Living in the in-laws' house is like walking on the edge of a sword.

This proverb describes the delicate and difficult nature of a woman's life in her husband's home. It suggests that she must be extremely careful, balanced, and tactful in her behavior to avoid conflicts and maintain harmony, as even a small mistake can lead to trouble, much like a sword dance.