పగలు పప్పేసినవందుకు నిన్నెందుకు కొడుదు పెండ్లామా? నిత్యం బూరెలు వండితే నిన్నెందుకు తిడుదు పెండ్లామా?

pagalu pappesinavanduku ninnenduku kodudu pendlama? nityam burelu vandite ninnenduku tidudu pendlama?

Translation

Why would I beat you for serving dal during the day, wife? Why would I scold you if you make sweet boorelu every day, wife?

Meaning

This expression is used to describe someone who makes obvious or redundant statements about being kind only when their own needs are met with luxury. It mocks a person who pretends to be reasonable while actually demanding high standards or special treatment constantly. It reflects a situation where 'good behavior' is conditional upon receiving the best possible service or food.

Related Phrases

Those who came for the wedding will do the work; O wife, do not strain your body.

This is a sarcastic proverb used to describe someone who is extremely lazy or avoids responsibility by assuming others will do the work. It mocks a person who expects guests or outsiders to perform tasks that are actually their own duty.

Even if she is the daughter of a king (Badshah), she is still a wife to the groom.

This proverb is used to signify that regardless of one's social status, wealth, or power in the outside world, certain roles and relationships within a family or specific context remain equal or defined by their function. It emphasizes that in a marriage, the bride is a wife first, irrespective of her father's stature.

The day after the marriage the goddess of misfortune appeared in the face of the bridegroom. The bridegroom looked a poor creature when stripped of all his finery.

This expression is used to describe someone who looks unusually gloomy, dull, or miserable during a time that is supposed to be joyful or celebratory. 'Peddamma' (Jyestha Devi) symbolizes misfortune or lethargy, contrasting with the expected happiness of a newlywed.

When good fortune comes, your wife will become your spouse. Said in joke to a man who fancied that he had been very fortunate.

This ironic proverb is used to describe a situation where someone attributes a natural or inevitable outcome to 'extraordinary luck' or 'divine intervention'. It highlights the absurdity of crediting luck for something that was already yours or bound to happen anyway. It is often used to mock someone who is overly superstitious or when someone gets lucky in a way that is redundant.

When a wife said "If I had not been born, you would not have had a wife," the husband replied "If you had not been born, I should have married your mother." i. e. a better woman.

This is a witty and biting comeback used to silence someone who is being overly boastful or arrogant about their importance in a situation. It highlights that no one is indispensable and that there are always alternatives, even if the alternatives suggested are humorous or absurdly provocative.

All shame is gone, junior wife; shall we at least go to the wedding, senior wife?

This expression is used to describe a person who lacks self-respect or has already lost their reputation and continues to act shamelessly without concern for social standing. It highlights a situation where someone, having already suffered a major embarrassment or failure, behaves as if nothing happened or tries to seek further social engagement despite their loss of dignity.

The man in front is the bridegroom.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone chooses the most immediate or obvious option available because they lack the time, patience, or resources to look for a better alternative. It implies settling for what is right in front of one's eyes.

Your paternal uncle's wife is not your maternal aunt; your maternal uncle's wife is not your paternal aunt.

This proverb highlights the nuances of relationships and blood ties. It suggests that while people may hold certain titles or positions through marriage, they do not necessarily inherit the same biological significance or emotional depth as the original relative. It is often used to caution against expecting the same level of care or loyalty from relatives by marriage as one would from blood relatives.

When asked 'Wife, do you have any work or chores?', she replied 'Let's go to sleep'.

This proverb is used to describe someone who is extremely lazy or avoids responsibilities. It highlights a situation where, when prompted to be productive or do some work, a person suggests resting or sleeping instead of contributing.

In bad times, one's own wife becomes a problem/burden.

This expression is used to describe a string of bad luck or an unfortunate period in life where even the things or people meant to support you (like a spouse) seem to turn against you or become sources of trouble. It highlights how everything goes wrong when time is not in your favor.